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EmilyC
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- May 26, 2010
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Hi everyone,
I've been lurking on this site for a couple months now. I was really happy to find a space where people could talk about these issues and feel safe.
Like most people here, I'm terrified of going to the dentist. I make myself go every 6 months though, because paradoxically, I'm also terrified of NOT going too!
My story is a long one, so please bear with me and I'll try to be brief: When I was very young (so young I'm not sure when it started) I developed a growth in the front of my mouth. Coincidentally, I also had three impacted teeth in that same area (front, canine, and the tooth between). I started treatment (involving orthodontics and several surgeries) for bringing those three teeth into place when I was twelve, but early on in treatment an oral surgeon discovered the growth had done substantial damage to my bone, and removed a lot of it. I continued my treatment which took 5 years to complete. During that time my mouth went through various stages of freakishness and it was always noticeable when I was talking or smiling. When my treatment was complete, I needed a bridge because one tooth could not be saved and there wasn't enough bone for an implant, and several dentists and periodontists have said I wouldn't be a good candidate for a bone graft. There was always very little bone around one of the teeth in my bridge, and I found out I'm losing more bone around that tooth slowly over time. Gum disease isn't causing it, I get regular cleanings and keep the area clean. One dentist thought that the trauma of all the surgeries and treatment might be doing it.
I guess the how or why doesn't matter at this point - when that tooth goes I will be missing two front teeth, and I'll need another fixed bridge or a partial denture. My other teeth are fine, so I could do either option, but I'm only 26 and don't feel very good about filing down perfectly good teeth and possibly endangering them later when I still have to get a lot of years out of them.
I'm giving you all this background because I've always felt like a defective person because of this problem. And having to revisit this now is bringing these feelings to the surface. I've always felt disfigured in some way -- like I am missing something the majority of other people have - like I'm not quite whole. It probably sounds stupid; I know lots of people have problems with their teeth - some people have lost teeth due to gum disease, infections, or even accidents, and I never look a those people and think of them the way I think of myself. I tell myself over and over again, "It's only teeth! At least they can do SOMETHING even if it's not ideal. At least I can look semi-presentable." But I think about it all the time. And every time I go to the dentist, I am terrified this will be the time when they say they need to take out my old bridge, or this will be the time something awful happens. But I also work myself up a good two months before I know it's time to go, and I go because I'm afraid of what will happen if I don't.
I don't know, maybe it is because I spent so much time "being fixed" that I am always feeling like I need to be "fixed." I have a lot of anxiety over this issue though, and I'm embarrassed about the fact that my teeth are like this, but I'm also embarrassed about how much it bothers me. I wish I could just laugh about it, and just sort of own it, but I can't. And I have never told anyone about this.
So if anyone has had similar experiences they want to share or can offer suggestions for coping, I would be very grateful.
-Emily
I've been lurking on this site for a couple months now. I was really happy to find a space where people could talk about these issues and feel safe.
Like most people here, I'm terrified of going to the dentist. I make myself go every 6 months though, because paradoxically, I'm also terrified of NOT going too!
My story is a long one, so please bear with me and I'll try to be brief: When I was very young (so young I'm not sure when it started) I developed a growth in the front of my mouth. Coincidentally, I also had three impacted teeth in that same area (front, canine, and the tooth between). I started treatment (involving orthodontics and several surgeries) for bringing those three teeth into place when I was twelve, but early on in treatment an oral surgeon discovered the growth had done substantial damage to my bone, and removed a lot of it. I continued my treatment which took 5 years to complete. During that time my mouth went through various stages of freakishness and it was always noticeable when I was talking or smiling. When my treatment was complete, I needed a bridge because one tooth could not be saved and there wasn't enough bone for an implant, and several dentists and periodontists have said I wouldn't be a good candidate for a bone graft. There was always very little bone around one of the teeth in my bridge, and I found out I'm losing more bone around that tooth slowly over time. Gum disease isn't causing it, I get regular cleanings and keep the area clean. One dentist thought that the trauma of all the surgeries and treatment might be doing it.
I guess the how or why doesn't matter at this point - when that tooth goes I will be missing two front teeth, and I'll need another fixed bridge or a partial denture. My other teeth are fine, so I could do either option, but I'm only 26 and don't feel very good about filing down perfectly good teeth and possibly endangering them later when I still have to get a lot of years out of them.
I'm giving you all this background because I've always felt like a defective person because of this problem. And having to revisit this now is bringing these feelings to the surface. I've always felt disfigured in some way -- like I am missing something the majority of other people have - like I'm not quite whole. It probably sounds stupid; I know lots of people have problems with their teeth - some people have lost teeth due to gum disease, infections, or even accidents, and I never look a those people and think of them the way I think of myself. I tell myself over and over again, "It's only teeth! At least they can do SOMETHING even if it's not ideal. At least I can look semi-presentable." But I think about it all the time. And every time I go to the dentist, I am terrified this will be the time when they say they need to take out my old bridge, or this will be the time something awful happens. But I also work myself up a good two months before I know it's time to go, and I go because I'm afraid of what will happen if I don't.
I don't know, maybe it is because I spent so much time "being fixed" that I am always feeling like I need to be "fixed." I have a lot of anxiety over this issue though, and I'm embarrassed about the fact that my teeth are like this, but I'm also embarrassed about how much it bothers me. I wish I could just laugh about it, and just sort of own it, but I can't. And I have never told anyone about this.
So if anyone has had similar experiences they want to share or can offer suggestions for coping, I would be very grateful.
-Emily