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elpheb
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Just found this website, and have spent the best part of the last 5 hours reading through it, and seeing so much of myself reflected on here.
I had a terrible dentist when I was a child, and can vividly remember many traumatic trips to the surgery. He was just such a horrible man, who made jokes about me, and practically told me off every time i went to see him. Once he cut my gum open, a second time he 'accidently' froze the wrong side of my mouth while giving me a filling. Even typing this is making me feel physically sick.
Because of this I have been too afraid to see a dentist for over 10 years. I'm now 26, and the last time I had been to the dentist was just before I left school, the time he froze the wrong side of my mouth. Nearly two years ago I had an absess in my wisdom tooth, which led it having to be extracted, under deep sedative. I have no recollection of this at all, not even of going into the dentist surgery (I was on quite powerful painkillers!).
Now, two years later, I'm not in pain, but my mouth is really uncomfortable. I know that my teeth are in really bad shape, bits have broken off a couple of side bottom teeth, and there is lots of discolouring on my top front teeth, including a big cavity at the back of one of them. I also have a few missing or broken fillings at the back, and I have a feeling that recently I have been grinding my teeth in my sleep as I think some at the back are wearing away. I'm quite a large (overweight) person, but I lost my appetite about 3 months ago, but I think that's because I'm afraid of doing more damage in there. I tend to eat soup, stews or other dishes that don't need much chewing. I've lost about 2 stone, which is great, but for all the wrong reasons.
I know I have to go to the dentist, but the thought of it just makes me sick. There are so many things that make me feel this way; the drill, the smells, that horrible liquid to rinse out, the 'clinical' feel to the place. But there are a couple of bigger fears for me.
Firstly the shame of the state my mouth is in. I know it's bad in there, and I keep making excuses to myself why it's like that, but I am really afraid of the judgement from the dentist about it. I live in a rural area of Northern Ireland, where everyone knows everyone else, and I see the dentist I would be going to often. Bumping into him in the supermarket and knowing that he understood how bad my teeth were would really freak me out.
Secondly, the treatment, and the cost of it. I'm petrified that I'll have to have all my teeth taken out, and have to wear dentures. My dad has been wearing dentures since he was younger than me, and no one other than my mum, sisters and I know, but I'm really scared of having to get them. I know that if the dentist tells me that I will just cry and totally freak out. I work for a charity, so my job doesn't pay that well. I'm worried that I won't be able to afford any treatment that is recommended.
I'm sorry to go on for so long, but even typing this is helping me. If anyone can offer any advice I would really appreciate it. I just feel like running to the bathroom now and being sick.
I had a terrible dentist when I was a child, and can vividly remember many traumatic trips to the surgery. He was just such a horrible man, who made jokes about me, and practically told me off every time i went to see him. Once he cut my gum open, a second time he 'accidently' froze the wrong side of my mouth while giving me a filling. Even typing this is making me feel physically sick.
Because of this I have been too afraid to see a dentist for over 10 years. I'm now 26, and the last time I had been to the dentist was just before I left school, the time he froze the wrong side of my mouth. Nearly two years ago I had an absess in my wisdom tooth, which led it having to be extracted, under deep sedative. I have no recollection of this at all, not even of going into the dentist surgery (I was on quite powerful painkillers!).
Now, two years later, I'm not in pain, but my mouth is really uncomfortable. I know that my teeth are in really bad shape, bits have broken off a couple of side bottom teeth, and there is lots of discolouring on my top front teeth, including a big cavity at the back of one of them. I also have a few missing or broken fillings at the back, and I have a feeling that recently I have been grinding my teeth in my sleep as I think some at the back are wearing away. I'm quite a large (overweight) person, but I lost my appetite about 3 months ago, but I think that's because I'm afraid of doing more damage in there. I tend to eat soup, stews or other dishes that don't need much chewing. I've lost about 2 stone, which is great, but for all the wrong reasons.
I know I have to go to the dentist, but the thought of it just makes me sick. There are so many things that make me feel this way; the drill, the smells, that horrible liquid to rinse out, the 'clinical' feel to the place. But there are a couple of bigger fears for me.
Firstly the shame of the state my mouth is in. I know it's bad in there, and I keep making excuses to myself why it's like that, but I am really afraid of the judgement from the dentist about it. I live in a rural area of Northern Ireland, where everyone knows everyone else, and I see the dentist I would be going to often. Bumping into him in the supermarket and knowing that he understood how bad my teeth were would really freak me out.
Secondly, the treatment, and the cost of it. I'm petrified that I'll have to have all my teeth taken out, and have to wear dentures. My dad has been wearing dentures since he was younger than me, and no one other than my mum, sisters and I know, but I'm really scared of having to get them. I know that if the dentist tells me that I will just cry and totally freak out. I work for a charity, so my job doesn't pay that well. I'm worried that I won't be able to afford any treatment that is recommended.
I'm sorry to go on for so long, but even typing this is helping me. If anyone can offer any advice I would really appreciate it. I just feel like running to the bathroom now and being sick.