I'm In a state of panic!

[Kim]

Hello all

Thank you all for taking the time and trouble to get back to me with the hugs especially. I just need to clarify somethng for Carole And Carys, as I do have a habit of waffling, and then things do get confusing, so my apologies for that.

So to clarify - My crown broke within the first few days of being on holiday in Australia to see my family. I was in no pain and could not muster up the courage to get to a dentist while I was there, I needed to go with my husband for support (and to make sure I got through the door).

After about a week after I was back, my friend managed to persuade me to see the dentist her friend works for. I did. He then referred me on to dentist 2 for sedation as I was in such a state. I went to see dentist 2 who wrote out a treatment plan for me to consider, but something wasn't 'sitting' right.

Someone on here (my apologies for not remembering who that was at this stage) and at that time, I was thinking I would be going with dentist 2 but still there was something niggling me about him. Then (same person) re-recommended Dr Hirst and the thought of seeing a 3rd dentist not only sent me into panic mode, but made me re-think. I needed to get another opinion to make sure that I would take the right course of treatment.

I only went to my 3rd assessment a week ago on Friday. And in between of that time, I have been liaising with Dr Hirst with options, concerns and questions. He has been BRILLIANT in his responses, has taken time out in his own time, and looked at all the things he can do to try to help me through all of this. He is of course a busy man, and I so totally understand that, which is why I was feeling really bad for being so impatient (and because of my phobia, it enhanses my sense of patience - if that makes sense)? In no way shape or form, has Dr Hirst been taking his time or dragging his heels, so please, please don't think this. I needed to get all the information I could and my questions answered before coming to my decision.

Thank you for all your help and support, as it is really so very much appreciated.

Just while I am on, does anyone know of a good forum for people with anxiety disorders, my friend has told her son that I come on here, and that it helps me, so wondered if I could pass a little help for her son.

Thanks guy's.

[Carys]

Hiyer Kim,

A good forum is 'No More Panic', very similar to this place, with helpful 'sheets' of info and a very active forum. They cover a variety of different aspects of anxiety, including post traumatic stress, OCD and Health Anxiety.

Thanks for taking the time to make such a long reply Kim, I understand now.

[Kim]

No worries Carys, glad it cleared things up for you, and soooo many thanks for the other forum - I will text my friend now with the info.

Take care.

Kim

[Kim]

I still haven't managed to get my head around replying with quote, but that is probably because I have the attention span of a goldfish at the moment

But believe me, I don't feel like an 'incredibly strong woman' - I feel truly weak, but know that I have to go forward with all of this, and that is what I will do - with help from LOADS of people, near and far

Great to hear you've had your reply . You're an incredibly strong woman ! Big hugs to you !!!

[Kim]

I am feeling rather 'odd' today. My husband and children are all in Scotland (I took the last two to the airport very early this morning) and I am now officially 'home alone'. I have things planned to busy myself with, and apart from a bit of a glitch yesterday, haven't cried so much for a while, and my tummy is still in a knot, but I am managing to eat a bit better, so I am guessing this is my head and body's way of beginning to get used to this whole dentist thing?

I know I won't ever get used to it, and I don't have another appointment until next week, and I daresay I will be back to being all in a state - have just proved it, said about the appointment, and my hands are going all cold and clammy!!

[Kim]

Had a lovely night with my bestest girlie friends last night, good food, wine and company, in no particular order!

That was the sunshine before the storm tho' - feeling really low and teary today - any spare hugs going - have requested one from my hubby, but he won't look at his phone for ages

[letsconnect]

I'm glad you had a lovely night last night - it's so important that you get some time off the worry and stress you're under at the moment. I hope you'll be able to find stuff to keep yourself occupied while your family is away.

Sending lots of cyberhugs your way (<-- do you like the way they turn into a yellow bar just before hugging?? first time I've noticed that, lol!)

[bisja]

Sounds like you had a great evening last night always good to get together with friends. Take time today to just pamper yourself have a long bath read a good book watch a good movie eat something that you normally don't. Relax and remember soon whatever you have decided will be over and life will go on no matter what and this will soon be history, no matter how bad things get in our lives it is soon history.

[Carys]

I'm glad you are not letting yourself curl up into a total ball and not get involved with life (what terrible grammar in that last sentence). It is easy to do when you feel depressed about your oral health and possible future dental work, retreat and become more and more low, but it is also so good for you to have some fun and get out and about seeing people....because those are the really important things in life, family and friends. Hope you feel less teary soon.

[Kim]

Thank you guys so much - letsconnect I do love the way the hugs go into a line - I am finding out a few more of these hugs and smiley things, which is cool - still can't get my head around posting with a quote tho' - tried it earlier and got me nowhere!

Bisja - I constantly am taking my hat (well I would if I wore one) off to you. You have gone through a lot of stress, worry and anxiety this last while, but you still find it in your heart to offer support. Thank you. And how are you doing yourself?

And Thanks also Carys. I must admit, I found it a real struggle to get out of the house today - no motivation at all, and the thought of having to smile or talk to ANYONE - well! So I took myself off to do my 'big' shop at Costco - it was rammed with people and kiddies being let loose (what are these parents thinking of). I just went around as best as I could in the chaos, waited for ages in the queue and was served by a lovely guy, who was really helpful in getting my goods in the trolley without too much of a panic. It took me ages to get back here as the roads seem to be manic today, but I think that is because it is the end of the month for a lot of people and they have been paid, so are spending it before it has gone

I am going to chill out for the rest of the day and evening, and watch all the rubbishy programmes that I want without one person complaining - bliss

Still feeling teary, still feel as tho' my face is hitting the floor, but tomorrow is another day, and hopefully I will feel better.

Have a good evening all of you, and thank you again.

Kim