First off thank you to the creators of this site..OMG where have you been all my life LOL.
I am Gem and I am scared paralyzed of dentists, and anything to do with teeth. Oh and sorry for any spelling mistakes I don't have a auto correct and can't spell...hopefully it will not be to bad
Where to start the begining I suppose
I am a army brat, so when we had dental issues we went to a military dentist. When I was very young ( I have blocked out the age sorry) I needed a root canal done ( damage from playing hockey...oh yes I am Canadian by birth/raising)....wow even avoiding here....on with it woman LOL
So my Da took me to the dentist who we called the Tooth Fairy ( ok how messed up is that for a child's mind)..long story short before I lose my courage....they the adults and professional decided I was tough enough to get by with no Novicane or numbing of any kind while the Tooth Fairy did a root canal upon my front tooth.....and because I cowboy'd up on with that...( I was raised in a world where you flinched it hurt worse so you learned very early not to flinch or show pain)...every filling, or dental need was done without any sort of numbing relief.
Fast forward I am 38 ( and I had not been to a dentist since I was 16) and my front tooth next to the original RC was giving me a lot of trouble. I am in the US by this time married to a wonderful caring man, who reassured me that the dentist would be caring and a long way from the Tooth fairy of my youth....How WRONG he was!!!!
The dentist decided that the tooth needed to be pulled, then a titanium peg placed in, and then the fake tooth placed on that peg.......I don't think I can relive it even in writing it down...let's just say the dentist was neither kind nor compassionate...nor real great with making sure the patient ( me) was numb and or out of it....I felt everything, including 3 hours of her pounding into my mouth a peg.
After that ordeal I told my husband that he best like toothless women because I would never enter another dentist office again, I was going to let every tooth in my head fall out.
Having my Da's teeth, which are soft and I just find out every sibling and grandparent had false teeth by the time they were 45 ( I am 44) I discovered how painful it is when teeth crack and break off....
My husband called a dentist he had met a few years back and knew personally to be kind, compassionate, knowing I would never make the call, and he can not stand to see me suffering...I went last week and he is indeed kind, caring and compassionate....My appointment lasted 3 hours, and he only did two fillings...he took his time, explained everything, warmed up the numbing stuff, and made sure I could not feel any part of my face LOL. He is talking cleaning once he fixes what he can....the last cleaning I had was from the one who did the front tooth...and since my teeth are uber sensitive and I told them that, and they did not care in fact I was crying hysterically at the end of it and in so much pain I wanted to cut my head off...not sure I can trust to get that done.
Tomorrow I go again to have one tooth pulled because it is far to broken to fix or rebuild....I am still scared stiff thinking about what has to happen, but think I can trust Dr. Mike....at least he is not called the Tooth Fairy LOL. I will let everybody know how it goes.
Oh and I am not completely cured of my phobia....because one of the broken teeth is a wisdom tooth that a dental surgeon has to take out.....and I am thinking it can just stay there, what's the harm now that Dr. Mike ground off the sharp edges.
I hope this ramble makes sense and folks can read it...I am so grateful to have found this site, and others out there who understand that it is not a "oh I am nervous about the dentist" but a I can't move for the fear.
Have a great day everybody