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SolitudeIsBliss
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Hi.
I'm feeling really depressed about my situation and don't even know how to go about starting to address it.
My teeth are in a bad way. They are not the worst, but they are going to require a lot of work. Unfortunately, as a child, my family was not big on looking after their teeth and my teeth were neglected. I also had a poor diet. For my entire adult life, I've had severe mental health issues for the last 10 years (depression and social anxiety), which has resulted in even further neglect. I actually feel like the state of my teeth is a large contributor to my depression and social anxiety as it impacts how I feel about myself and how confident I feel. I feel ashamed of myself and can't live life freely without fear that someone is going to notice my bad teeth. Realising this, I really want to do something about it but I have two massive fears.
Firstly, the cost. I know it's going to cost a lot to fix my teeth. I've saved up a decent amount of money (definitely enough to make a decent start on getting it sorted) and have also looked into possibly getting a loan of several thousand dollars. I still feel it is likely that I am going to be still short by a fair amount, which is depressing because it has taken me so long to save what I've saved. Secondly, I fear the dentist would tell me that there is nothing they can do for me. That my mouth is too messed up to help and they will scold me for letting it get this bad. A large part of my social anxiety is a fear of judgement, and the idea that the dentist will shout at me and humiliate me is so distressing that I can't get myself to go.
Over the last few months, I've been obsessing about it. I've been looking up dentists and watching dental makeover and treatment videos on youtube almost every night. I've found a couple of dentists that seem to cater for anxious patients and I'm toying with the idea of emailing them.
I am thinking of emailing them and trying to explain my situation to them. I want to ask can I have an appointment were I just talk to them about my fears etc. I just can't bear to jump right into this. I need to have my fears and concerns heard before I can get on with any actual treatment.
Do you think this is something possible to do? Has anyone taken this approach before? Any ideas on how I can get the ball rolling?
I'm so sorry for the long post. I am too ashamed to talk to anyone about this in my personal life. It has taken me months to even build up the courage to ask a group of strangers about this. This is the first time I have ever talked about this.
Thank you.
I'm feeling really depressed about my situation and don't even know how to go about starting to address it.
My teeth are in a bad way. They are not the worst, but they are going to require a lot of work. Unfortunately, as a child, my family was not big on looking after their teeth and my teeth were neglected. I also had a poor diet. For my entire adult life, I've had severe mental health issues for the last 10 years (depression and social anxiety), which has resulted in even further neglect. I actually feel like the state of my teeth is a large contributor to my depression and social anxiety as it impacts how I feel about myself and how confident I feel. I feel ashamed of myself and can't live life freely without fear that someone is going to notice my bad teeth. Realising this, I really want to do something about it but I have two massive fears.
Firstly, the cost. I know it's going to cost a lot to fix my teeth. I've saved up a decent amount of money (definitely enough to make a decent start on getting it sorted) and have also looked into possibly getting a loan of several thousand dollars. I still feel it is likely that I am going to be still short by a fair amount, which is depressing because it has taken me so long to save what I've saved. Secondly, I fear the dentist would tell me that there is nothing they can do for me. That my mouth is too messed up to help and they will scold me for letting it get this bad. A large part of my social anxiety is a fear of judgement, and the idea that the dentist will shout at me and humiliate me is so distressing that I can't get myself to go.
Over the last few months, I've been obsessing about it. I've been looking up dentists and watching dental makeover and treatment videos on youtube almost every night. I've found a couple of dentists that seem to cater for anxious patients and I'm toying with the idea of emailing them.
I am thinking of emailing them and trying to explain my situation to them. I want to ask can I have an appointment were I just talk to them about my fears etc. I just can't bear to jump right into this. I need to have my fears and concerns heard before I can get on with any actual treatment.
Do you think this is something possible to do? Has anyone taken this approach before? Any ideas on how I can get the ball rolling?
I'm so sorry for the long post. I am too ashamed to talk to anyone about this in my personal life. It has taken me months to even build up the courage to ask a group of strangers about this. This is the first time I have ever talked about this.
Thank you.