Well done for making that appointment!
If you have nagging pain in your wisdom tooth I would imagine it's not infected - if it were infected you would know it!
It may become infected though so see how it goes and if it gets worse then contact the dentist or your doc for some anti-biotics.
I would also go to your doc to talk about the IBS and ask for some diazepam to get you through upcoming appointments.
I take 15mg for each appointment - my dentist could see just how terrified I was went I went in and he suggested I go to my doc. I misinterpreted what he sais and thought he was going to speak to my doc so I got 5mg prescribed by the doc last minute only to find out the dentist had prescribed me 15mg. 15mg is what I took at delayed intervals over a couple of hours before the appointment and it helped me hugely.
I have a stash of them now for any emergencies and any appointment and the doctors surgery totally understood - the receptionists especially were brilliant and even wrote notes about how I basically had a panic attacks just at the desk trying to find out if I could get an appointment to get the darn things!
I even took some just to go into the dentist building to collect some anti-biotics prior to having that first extraction as I was that shaken up!
Something I found helpful was to let the dentist know my awful history with dentists but also all of the hugely expensive treatments I have had (a lot of periodontal work which is a horrible treatment to go through) but I also told him that I wasn't rich and needed something that wouldn't end up with surprise extra bills.
Following on from my first appointment (I asked him to do x-rays that day also to speed up the process) he gave me a full and complete breakdown of the treatment we'd discussed so I knew exactly what to expect to pay.
Only one thing added more expense which was urgent after he had seen my x-rays and it was only an extra £135 which was handle-able. This was to remove my upper front tooth which had broken in the gum and had become infected. I had lived with it for 3 months and was in agony before I got the balls up to go to a dentist.
He glued the extracted tooth to it's buddy teeth so I wasn't left with a gap at all.
I have ended up with a partial denture and a further 3 extractions so all upper front four teeth have been removed (the other 3 would have required extensive periodontal work which I simply could not face and could not afford to keep having done so I wanted to opt for a more permanent solution)
My partial has been a total life changer for me.
I always had twisted teeth in those front four and always hid them. Braces never worked as a kid. I can smile now and the partial denture has significantly changed this.
My worst ever fear was losing my teeth but I wish I had done this years ago. If magically I could have the option of my own teeth (prior to one being broken) I wouldn't choose it. I'd go with having the treatment I did and getting the denture 100 times over!
Is there any chance you could get on the list for any cancelled appointments to get you in sooner?
I would also ask if you could have your x-rays done on that first appointment if you can - it will speed things up for you.
I was lucky, I explained how much pain I was in over an email as a first contact and they called me the following day. I was in the dentist chair 2 hours later - terrified and before having any diazepam but they saw me as soon as they possibly could.
