- Aug 10, 2020
- Denver, CO
Hello. I (25 F) had been struggling to get my autistic girlfriend (26 F) to see the dentist about a toothache occurring in the back of her mouth. Being autistic and having dental phobia opens up entirely new doors of fear for her; sensory issues, fear of going non-verbal during treatment and not being able to alert anyone that something hurts, and bright lights and high pitched noises that could send her into a meltdown. She’s been to the dentist before, having had many, many awful experiences in her childhood. She stopped going in adulthood and I haven’t been able to convince her to even think about setting foot in an office in the four years we’ve been together, until now. Her toothache is bad enough to the point where she allowed me to book her an appointment. It’s a week and a half away, and I desperately need tips on how to keep her calm and comfortable. The dentist I’ve booked her with is supposedly good for people with dental anxiety, so I hope they have experience with autistic people as well. With COVID 19 happening, my girlfriend is worried she may not be able to have her comfort object (her blanket) during the procedure. She’s genuinely scared out of her mind and I’m at a heartbroken loss. She’s been crying herself to sleep over it since I booked the appointment. She, by no means, has bad hygiene. She’d tedious about her brushing, flossing, and mouthwash schedule, and rarely eats sweets. If you have any tips or advice on how to ease her anxiety both before and during the appointment, please send them my way. XO.