krlovesherkids777
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Bastet,
Well, you can't say you didn't try for the cat at least.. never know until you try.
I so hear you this. You're anxious and want a little more comfort and maybe a bit of warmth/encouragement but it seems like it was met with politeness maybe but not a lot of connection . which could be many reasons.
So often , its so easy to feel like , if I ask I will be a burden and bother. and they will be annoyed and the inner critic goes on. so you just don't. I pushed myself a little last time to say , 'you know I think if you CAN still give me the local it would help" because that is what they usually do for crowns and what I was used to and he said I might not need it.. in anxious pt mode.. to me ". could have meant. lets do this quicker and get you out of here " but.. I have history with my dentist so can pretty much guess that isn't the reason, he's been very caring and taking his time with me every other appt in the past.. but the same way.. the "I'm a burden , I'm a bother". part of anxiety really likes to speak loudly. So its really really hard to ask for what we want .. its hard to ask for anything..
Glad you made it through the impressions.. even though it wasn't the best experience , like you say, it proved you surely could do it and make it through. those times are great to store up and remember.
"I was hoping for some words of encouragement, but he was silent. That really got to me for some reason. I felt bad for even asking. It turned out the impressions were fine. It wasn't the kind of material that oozed down my throat. I don't know why it's bothering me so much. I guess because he didn't say anything to help me out. Most assistants tell me something they'll do to make it easier for me or coach me on breathing. I wish I could put into words how I felt. I guess I felt like I asked for help, and it wasn't acknowledged. I did thank him for not gagging me.
He asked if I needed nitrous for the second half of the appointment, and I said no. It was a mistake, because I had kind of a hard time, and in the state I was in, I didn't want to ask for anything again. I know that was my issue and had nothing to do with the dentist. I got through it though, and it's good to know that I can."
Well, you can't say you didn't try for the cat at least.. never know until you try.
I so hear you this. You're anxious and want a little more comfort and maybe a bit of warmth/encouragement but it seems like it was met with politeness maybe but not a lot of connection . which could be many reasons.
So often , its so easy to feel like , if I ask I will be a burden and bother. and they will be annoyed and the inner critic goes on. so you just don't. I pushed myself a little last time to say , 'you know I think if you CAN still give me the local it would help" because that is what they usually do for crowns and what I was used to and he said I might not need it.. in anxious pt mode.. to me ". could have meant. lets do this quicker and get you out of here " but.. I have history with my dentist so can pretty much guess that isn't the reason, he's been very caring and taking his time with me every other appt in the past.. but the same way.. the "I'm a burden , I'm a bother". part of anxiety really likes to speak loudly. So its really really hard to ask for what we want .. its hard to ask for anything..
Glad you made it through the impressions.. even though it wasn't the best experience , like you say, it proved you surely could do it and make it through. those times are great to store up and remember.
"I was hoping for some words of encouragement, but he was silent. That really got to me for some reason. I felt bad for even asking. It turned out the impressions were fine. It wasn't the kind of material that oozed down my throat. I don't know why it's bothering me so much. I guess because he didn't say anything to help me out. Most assistants tell me something they'll do to make it easier for me or coach me on breathing. I wish I could put into words how I felt. I guess I felt like I asked for help, and it wasn't acknowledged. I did thank him for not gagging me.
He asked if I needed nitrous for the second half of the appointment, and I said no. It was a mistake, because I had kind of a hard time, and in the state I was in, I didn't want to ask for anything again. I know that was my issue and had nothing to do with the dentist. I got through it though, and it's good to know that I can."