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waterlily
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Hi, I'm new here!
My fiance, A, has dental phobia and we're trying to work through it together. He's been going to some of my dentists appointments in an effort to desensitize himself. He has not been to the dentist in 10+ years, and I'm afraid he has an infection or something life threatening. I don't know how bad off his teeth are. He refuses to talk about anything very in depth. I feel lucky on days he talks to me about it at all.
I am very afraid for his health, and its really taking a toll on my mental health. I'm trying to be there for him and help him, but its extremely hard sometimes. He's been breaking promises he made me to go, and I've been putting off a trip I want to go on to be there for his first dental appointment but I have a feeling it won't be happening. I'm very afraid that he's going to get sick because of his teeth and whenever I think about it I end up crying. Its so difficult to watch the person you love slowly killing themselves and theres nothing you can do about it.
How do I cope? I know I can't do anything more than I am to make him go so I'm trying to focus on controlling my feelings and my reactions. Should I just try to let it go? Give up? Go on this trip anyway? Or push him harder? I'm at a loss right now on what to do. Advice?
My fiance, A, has dental phobia and we're trying to work through it together. He's been going to some of my dentists appointments in an effort to desensitize himself. He has not been to the dentist in 10+ years, and I'm afraid he has an infection or something life threatening. I don't know how bad off his teeth are. He refuses to talk about anything very in depth. I feel lucky on days he talks to me about it at all.
I am very afraid for his health, and its really taking a toll on my mental health. I'm trying to be there for him and help him, but its extremely hard sometimes. He's been breaking promises he made me to go, and I've been putting off a trip I want to go on to be there for his first dental appointment but I have a feeling it won't be happening. I'm very afraid that he's going to get sick because of his teeth and whenever I think about it I end up crying. Its so difficult to watch the person you love slowly killing themselves and theres nothing you can do about it.
How do I cope? I know I can't do anything more than I am to make him go so I'm trying to focus on controlling my feelings and my reactions. Should I just try to let it go? Give up? Go on this trip anyway? Or push him harder? I'm at a loss right now on what to do. Advice?