dentist tomorrow, feel sick just thinking about it

[thingamabob]

i wasn't really scared of the dentist until about 8 years ago, but since then it's been getting worse. it's not the procedure i'm afraid of, but the outbursts i have to sit through after them. i'd beg the dentists to lie and say things weren't that bad so i wouldn't get yelled at, or throw up to avoid appointments altogether. i'm still so ashamed to be this young and have such bad problems. it feels like i deserve this, that this is my punishment for being stupid. even feels like if i don't go to the dentist i don't have to admit it, and it doesn't exist. the problem scares me so, so much, but nowhere near as bad as the solution does. it really is awful.

tomorrow i go in for 3 crowns, and a possible root canal. i'm scared, i've been shaking and hyperventilating, i can't stop it. it'll take around 3 hours and change in total, and i'm not sure if i can handle it. the worst part is nobody knows exactly whats wrong with me. my hunch is the invisalign i used combined with acidic saliva, poor hygiene, and overzealous fillings when i was young all played a part. instead of rotting and turning black, my teeth turned white, all the calcium was being leached out of my top front teeth. soon the enamel began breaking away, and it reached a peak when half of my front tooth just snapped off out of nowhere. because i haven't been able to find a concrete answer to my problem, there's no concrete solution with success stories or a plan, it's terrifying. tomorrow i might go in and they'll decide all my teeth need crowns, or i need them pulled. i hate it, i wish i could be normal.

finding this forum has been nice to say the least, it helps me feel less alone in my issues. even then, i can't stop worrying and i don't know what to do about it. is there anything that'll help me feel better? for people with crowns did they work good for you or did any complications arise? for dentists is my condition even salvageable?

thank you, sorry for the rant

 

[thingamabob]

it got worse. appointment postponed. not 3. 5 crowns. just learned about it.

 

[letsconnect]

Hi there, so sorry to hear about your woes . This is definitely not your fault, there is no reason to be ashamed. It's really commendable that you're taking action, despite being the fear!

for dentists is my condition even salvageable?

The best place to ask would be the "Ask a Dentist" section:

Ask a Dentist - For Nervous Patients Only

If you suffer with a fear or phobia of the dentist, ask our resident dentists for their advice for overcoming your fears!

www.dentalfearcentral.org

How do you get on with your current dentist? It sounded as if you may have a few unanswered questions, and if you find your current dentist difficult to communicate with, it might be an idea to meet with some other dentists before you embark on this journey? We've got some tips for finding a phobic-friendly dentist here:

How to find a dentist for nervous patients

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Did you actually go in today, or did they call to let you know about the change of plan?

 

[thingamabob]

Hi there, so sorry to hear about your woes . This is definitely not your fault, there is no reason to be ashamed. It's really commendable that you're taking action, despite being the fear!

thank you for reaching out it really does mean alot, it's definitely a big step i'm taking but i'm doing my best haha. also, my relationship with my dentist is pretty good despite the random scheduling, he's super accommodating even when i was sobbing like a baby lol. he called me to let me know the change, no in person contact. hope you have a nice day

 

[letsconnect]

That's good to hear, I hope it all works out well for you! Please keep us updated

 

[oneby]

Great that you have a good and understanding dentist - that makes all the difference.

You aren't so abnormal. Countless good people have major dental problems from a young age, and countless people struggle with fear and phobia over dental problems. If they didn't, this website wouldn't exist.

I was surprised some years ago when my dentist informed me I had a crack in a tooth and needed a crown. Previously I didn't even know what a dental crown was. The procedure was not bad, I would say no worse than having a filling. I had a few issues with the temporary crown but now with the permanent crown everything is fine and I forget I even have it. It's just like my regular tooth.

Sorry you need so much work done, but there's only one way to approach it: one step at a time. Hope it goes well, thanks for sharing your story. Like you, I used to have no fear of the dentist, but as I've gotten older I've developed a fear. I'm having a problem right now and I'm going in this afternoon for an evaluation. I'm worried about about needing an extraction, etc. and all of that. It helps me to connect with others going through things and not feel so alone in it. All the best to you.