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Desperate over missing teeth / complex issues

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I will keep it short.

In my 20s, I had severe dental phobia (due to drilling in my childhood which was done without any anaesthetic) and depression. As a result, I lost 4 molars (they rotted and fell out).

Eventually, I managed to find a decent dentist and save some money. I had the retained roots of the missing molars extracted with sedation. I also had RCT.

I was told that due to the passage of time since I lost my molars, my jaw shifted and bone disappeared so I will need Invisalign to fix my jaw, sinus lift and bone graft before I can consider implants. This is estimated to take about 2.5 years and cost upward of £20,000.

My recent RCT proceeded to fail and as it was my second one, the tooth will need to be extracted too. That's 5 missing molars and I am only 30.

As I was finally mentally processing all of the above, the tooth nearest to the extraction site of the molars, got infected through a receding gum. I was told that I need an RCT and I may loose that (otherwise completely healthy) tooth too. This tooth is one of the front teeth and loosing it would probably make me suicidal.

I am beyond broken. I know that all of this is my fault but I am desperate over the continuing issue, the length of time that it will take to fix all my issues and the constant pain that I am in. On some nights, I wake up more than 4 times just from tooth pain alone. The failed RCT hurts, my gums hurt, my teeth are very sensitive.
I am ashamed of the missing teeth so much that I stopped going out and socialising. I am struggling at work. All of this is impacting my relationships as I have frequent mental breakdowns which is putting strain on my marriage. The pain has ruined multiple holidays and events over last year.

All to say that I am really struggling. Every day I struggle with the pain and with the various dental issues. It is hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
 
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