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Trublu
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- Sep 28, 2020
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My elderly father has dementia, still knows what’s happening around him but I have to keep reminding him of things.
However, my Father was allocated an emergency Dentist due to toothache; after treatment, the Dentist advised, what remained of his teeth be removed, stating it’ll have to be at the Hospital due to his age and medication; although the emergency Dentist referred him to a specialist clinic, who also advised, he have what remained of his teeth removed and also stating, it’ll be done at the Hospital and, he was referred back to the emergency Dentist.
The emergency Dentist never referred my Father to the Hospital when they should have done and by the time they did, in the middle of his treatment; the Coronavirus lockdown was implemented, which meant the process has been all the more traumatic.
However, now with all his teeth removed and at an appointment back at the Emergency Dentist, my Father has become agitated by how he was treated by the Dentist and he doesn’t want to go back.
He is unhappy that he wasn’t provided with a cover to protect his clothing during treatment, he was held down and forced to repeatedly gag whilst moulds for both dentures was taken, he wasn’t provided with a drink to rinse his mouth out; I had to ask for water, which was ignored, I also had to ask for a bib to protect his clothing and I was given a ripped piece of kitchen type roll; nor was my Father cleaned up after his treatment; thus, leaving the Dentist room with remnants of mould making substance in his mouth, all around his chin, neck and clothing; I had to clean my father’s face.
I too, am unhappy with his treatment but my Father is traumatised by it; more than his 5 visits to Hospital to remove all his teeth.
Now he’s refusing to visit this Dentist, demanding we go elsewhere; he has also remembered they failed to refer him to the Hospital for treatment when they should have done back in August last year (2019).
I’m aware this is not a phobia as such but I don’t know where else to turn to; I’ve searched online and made phone calls and, all I’ve been advised, is to complain in writing to the Dentist or visit a Drop in Clinic at a Dental Hospital which is miles away.
I’m fearful to complain in writing in case my Fathers treatment is jeopardise; I would much rather he visit a different Dentist but as he’s not in pain, he’s not entitled to treatment...... so much for being a WW2 veteran.
My Father’s original Dentist, kind of, struck him off their books, so to speak, because I was unable to take him to check ups whilst recovering from surgery; we never failed to attend appointments, we didn’t make any, because we couldn’t attend.
However, my Father was allocated an emergency Dentist due to toothache; after treatment, the Dentist advised, what remained of his teeth be removed, stating it’ll have to be at the Hospital due to his age and medication; although the emergency Dentist referred him to a specialist clinic, who also advised, he have what remained of his teeth removed and also stating, it’ll be done at the Hospital and, he was referred back to the emergency Dentist.
The emergency Dentist never referred my Father to the Hospital when they should have done and by the time they did, in the middle of his treatment; the Coronavirus lockdown was implemented, which meant the process has been all the more traumatic.
However, now with all his teeth removed and at an appointment back at the Emergency Dentist, my Father has become agitated by how he was treated by the Dentist and he doesn’t want to go back.
He is unhappy that he wasn’t provided with a cover to protect his clothing during treatment, he was held down and forced to repeatedly gag whilst moulds for both dentures was taken, he wasn’t provided with a drink to rinse his mouth out; I had to ask for water, which was ignored, I also had to ask for a bib to protect his clothing and I was given a ripped piece of kitchen type roll; nor was my Father cleaned up after his treatment; thus, leaving the Dentist room with remnants of mould making substance in his mouth, all around his chin, neck and clothing; I had to clean my father’s face.
I too, am unhappy with his treatment but my Father is traumatised by it; more than his 5 visits to Hospital to remove all his teeth.
Now he’s refusing to visit this Dentist, demanding we go elsewhere; he has also remembered they failed to refer him to the Hospital for treatment when they should have done back in August last year (2019).
I’m aware this is not a phobia as such but I don’t know where else to turn to; I’ve searched online and made phone calls and, all I’ve been advised, is to complain in writing to the Dentist or visit a Drop in Clinic at a Dental Hospital which is miles away.
I’m fearful to complain in writing in case my Fathers treatment is jeopardise; I would much rather he visit a different Dentist but as he’s not in pain, he’s not entitled to treatment...... so much for being a WW2 veteran.
My Father’s original Dentist, kind of, struck him off their books, so to speak, because I was unable to take him to check ups whilst recovering from surgery; we never failed to attend appointments, we didn’t make any, because we couldn’t attend.
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this is awful and definitely not how a dental treatment should work, no matter whether the patient is 6, 30 or 80 and what their mental status is.. I am so sorry the treatment of your father went like this. You say this is no phobia, but looking at what had happened, what else would be behind the unwillingness to go back, if not fear.. you described the experience as traumatising and that's pretty accurate.
