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rpj1977
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Hello.
I've many medical conditions and have phobia of medical professionals as well as dentists. My dental phobia I attempted to get help with so very many times has always resulted in people (including dentists) telling me I'm just little anxious and to stop being silly and I'll end up dead if I don't sort myself out. The last time I saw dentist was September last year via community dental services with a social worker who spent three months convincing me to see them. I wouldn't let him near me (I was raped by a consultant in hospital on top of dentist issues and now won't allow men near my mouth) I'd been told it would be a woman and was terrified. Part of the PTSD I have means I dont show fear so appear to be fine whilst feeling terrified. They said I needed x ray and could see little problem I had, nice and easy to sort out and they won't be making any contact about my medical needs as they don't matter, and kept smiling and nodding at me - he didn't understand I find that frightening. The social worker told me not to tell them I'd been raped as it wasn't relevant, but it is.
The thing is i sat the other end of the room. All he could see was the remaining four teeth at the front, all of which have tissue stuffed in to hide how bad things are, all the others have rotted now below my gums. I've diabetes and need to eat every two hours or very ill, one of the meds I'm on means teeth fall out as well as as condition that means I cannot have local anaesthetic (it doesn't work) and am too ill for general -when younger I was seriously injured by dentist putting his knee on me and yanking to remove teeth. I agreed to x Ray eventually but was terrfied as it meant going into hospital and I'm terrified of there too. Social worker said they'd help. However, a week later they said I'd coped so well they wouldn't anymore and I needed to go with family/friends (my family are also abusive and I've no friends) and was being discharged altogether as don't need qualified help as better now. When I got upset they said I definitely didn't have phobia and was just letting little fear everyone has get out of control and was being silly. They advised dentist not to make contact re any of my conditions and the referral has now been withdrawn as I no longer qualify as no phobia just little anxiety. I complained but was told I didn't need social worker just family or charity worker to help (I've neither and spent months building trust with the social worker).
Currently I'm not able to eat or even drink as my remaining teeth are breaking down. I can't even get out as I'm terrified. I saw a GP last week who smirked at me when I said about being phobic. The one person in real life I told likes to jokingly say I don't like dentists and how silly I am being to random people. I've no money for therapy and there's no dentists available locally (not even private in my county) never mind any who are phobic friendly and obviously the community service don't understand my needs at all. I've been ordering antibiotics online and am experiencing increasingly severe anxiety and depression - I already had these but this is making them worse.
I don't know when I'll come back, if anyone replies. It's taken days to write this as even the word dental sets off my anxiety.
Rach.
I've many medical conditions and have phobia of medical professionals as well as dentists. My dental phobia I attempted to get help with so very many times has always resulted in people (including dentists) telling me I'm just little anxious and to stop being silly and I'll end up dead if I don't sort myself out. The last time I saw dentist was September last year via community dental services with a social worker who spent three months convincing me to see them. I wouldn't let him near me (I was raped by a consultant in hospital on top of dentist issues and now won't allow men near my mouth) I'd been told it would be a woman and was terrified. Part of the PTSD I have means I dont show fear so appear to be fine whilst feeling terrified. They said I needed x ray and could see little problem I had, nice and easy to sort out and they won't be making any contact about my medical needs as they don't matter, and kept smiling and nodding at me - he didn't understand I find that frightening. The social worker told me not to tell them I'd been raped as it wasn't relevant, but it is.
The thing is i sat the other end of the room. All he could see was the remaining four teeth at the front, all of which have tissue stuffed in to hide how bad things are, all the others have rotted now below my gums. I've diabetes and need to eat every two hours or very ill, one of the meds I'm on means teeth fall out as well as as condition that means I cannot have local anaesthetic (it doesn't work) and am too ill for general -when younger I was seriously injured by dentist putting his knee on me and yanking to remove teeth. I agreed to x Ray eventually but was terrfied as it meant going into hospital and I'm terrified of there too. Social worker said they'd help. However, a week later they said I'd coped so well they wouldn't anymore and I needed to go with family/friends (my family are also abusive and I've no friends) and was being discharged altogether as don't need qualified help as better now. When I got upset they said I definitely didn't have phobia and was just letting little fear everyone has get out of control and was being silly. They advised dentist not to make contact re any of my conditions and the referral has now been withdrawn as I no longer qualify as no phobia just little anxiety. I complained but was told I didn't need social worker just family or charity worker to help (I've neither and spent months building trust with the social worker).
Currently I'm not able to eat or even drink as my remaining teeth are breaking down. I can't even get out as I'm terrified. I saw a GP last week who smirked at me when I said about being phobic. The one person in real life I told likes to jokingly say I don't like dentists and how silly I am being to random people. I've no money for therapy and there's no dentists available locally (not even private in my county) never mind any who are phobic friendly and obviously the community service don't understand my needs at all. I've been ordering antibiotics online and am experiencing increasingly severe anxiety and depression - I already had these but this is making them worse.
I don't know when I'll come back, if anyone replies. It's taken days to write this as even the word dental sets off my anxiety.
Rach.