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Hi everyone. I am scared and need advise Please.

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Mike2

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Hi everyone,

First let me say that I am extremely glad to have found this forum. I have been here many times and if were not for this forum and everyones support, I would be a far ahead as I am.

Writing about my fear has helped alot. I even have private correspondence from a person here who really, really helps me a lot.

Here is my problem. I never had any work done on my mouth until talking on this forum. First I went and got through deep cleanings and was terrified but gained strength from everyone here. Then I finally got some really big holes taken care of in my front teeth. The pallet needles I got were painful but after that I did not feel anything and I can't beleive I go through it all!

Now I have to get a wisdom tooth on the upper part of my mouth on the left side removed. It has broken down to the gumline and there is a huge hole that food gets stuck in. Ihave to clean it out ever time I eat.

It has gotten infected 2 times. I took antibiotics but never went further due to my fear of getting a tooth removed. The hole is all greyish in color and peices have been coming out for a while. None in the last 6 months just a big hole. Yes there is still a tooth and my dentist promises me that there will be no pain.

I am scared to death and can't imagine getting something pulled out of my mouth. Some say that when a tooth is broken or rotted down tot he gumline or beyond that it is easier to have it removed. Is this correct? What will I go through? How wil it feel?

My dentist said that they will numb me as they do not offer IV. Can I get through this? Please anyone....please tell me exactly what I will go through. Will my dentist have to cut my gum? I think my dentist said they would. Will I need stiches after? Should I request stitched to avoid the dreaded "dry socket" that could follow?

I guess being that the tooth is so rotted/decayed or broken below the gum line it should be easier. I dont know. I know I am rambling here but I need to make a decision. I have come this far with all of your help....deep cleanings, fillings etc.... I just can't seem to get the guts to get this done.

If I can get this done, then it is just 3 fillings after this and I could be home free. I just don't know how to get the guts to make the appointment and then sit there while they pull it out. I have to get through this please someone help! :hidesbehindsofa:

Please tell me everything. I can handle what is told to me. I just need to know everything so I knowe what to expect. Everyones support has helped me so much in the past that my dentist said to me.....we need to remove a top layer on the tooth we filled because I want to match the color a bit better. It will not hurt. We should drill without numbing as it will not hurt. Yu know what I agreed and it did not hurt at all!

I just need to get thorugh this and I could be home free. Please help. I don't want to put this off any longer and want to make sure I do not want to get sick from the tooth being infected. It is ok now but I am sure it will flare up. Thank you all and I sorry for making this a long post. I trust my dentist to the point that I will not look for another who does IV sedation. I am comfortable with my current dentist which is half the battle. Thank you all so much for your continued support. I just need to get this over in my life and soon :scared:
 
Re: Hi everyone. I am scared and need advise Pleas

Hi Mike Yes you can get through it if i can anyone can one tooth pulled isint that bad i had 6 or seven one one side pulled but i feel alot better now that i did it well when i got one wisdom tooth pulled a few years back they had to cut my gum dosent mean that they will cut yours though sometimes they use stiches i know i had two stiches the other week dont worrie if u need them you wont feel em doing it when htey pull a tooth all you feel is a little pressure but nothing that you wont be able to handel

Good luck
 
Re: Hi everyone. I am scared and need advise Pleas

Hi Mike, I had my upper left wisdom tooth pulled a few months ago because it was broken and decayed. I had nitrous oxide to relax me, the only thing I remember is some pressure, I had no pain even when they numbed me. I cried after it was over because I was so relieved. I just followed instructions afterwards and had no problems with dry socket and no stitches. I sending you good thoughts for your appointment. you can get through it. Steph :grouphug:
 
Please help! Terrified Extractions.

Hi Everyone,

I am not sure if anyone remembers me but I have gone through deep cleanings and I have had very deep fillings done on 3 of my teeth in the front.

I did not see a dentist for about 20 years because I likeother was terrified. I finally got myself to go with the help of people on this board and my wife and got the above mentioned problems fixed.

I thought I was over being terrified until I got some tooth pain in my wisdom tooth and the tooth next to it onthe right side. I went back to the dentist 3 months ago and she said that the wisdom tooth should be removed because they give problems down the road anyway and the decay is down to the root. The tooth next to it is the same way but she gave me the option of a root canal or pull it. I have another tooth about 3 away from that with the same options given to me and I also have a wisdom tooth on the left side that is broken down passed the gumline. That one needs to be removed as well. Food gets stuck in there and Ihave a deep hole where I have to brush food out of it. I can't beleive that one does not hurt at all but the others do.

She gave me antibiotics because the teeth on the right side looked infected as she said something about my sinuses. The pain seems tobe gone now but comes back slightly each day and I take Ibuprophin about 3 of them every 15 hours or so whichI know is too much.

Here is my problem......I can deal with needles now( I had 8 at one time with my deep cleaning on the top and the same for the bottom), I can deal with cavities being filled now,( Had 2 pallet needles when she did the cavities in the front that were deep) I can deal with deep cleanings now but my biggest fear is having a tooth pulled.

I have been putting this of for 3 months now and I must have gone through about 500 I buprophins. In the begining I was taking 4 Ibuprophin ever 6 hours now I am down to about 6 per day.

I am scared stiff of this procedure. I just wish I could get this over with. I got the courage to go and get everything else done and now I am at a road block. I am also afraid to be put to sleep or be sedated. So, local is the way I guess I will go.

Please everyone, please tell me what is going to happen. I need to know exactly what will be done, what the sounds will be and if it is painfull. Many people say you ust feel pressure and you hear cracking. Uggg....I just cringe at this.

I have gone as far as looking on the interent and finding some videos to see if it would calm me down so I would know what to expect and although it worked a bit, I just can't get myself to go. I pick up the phone and say it will be over soon and then I put it down and this goes on over and over again.

How many needles will I get? Will it be a gow gaites procedure? Is it painful? I hear wisdom teeth are hard to come out is this true? I am worried sick about dry socket as well.

I don't know if I will ever get this done and I feel like I am a prisoner. I need help please!

I promisd myself I would get my teeth fixed this year and I was almost done until this. Now the end of the year is almost here and I am stuck.

I really would like to save the other 2 teeth with root canal which I think I can go through as well. The problemis they want to charge me $1250 per tooth U.S. which is too expensive for me. $150 per tooth to pull is what they will charge me if I go that route. Can wisdom teeth be saved instead of pulled? If I had the money I would get root canals on all of them just so I would not have to gothrough this!

Please anyone that can help I would be greatful. I just need to know everything that will go on from start to finish including sounds and what to expect after. I don't know if I can go through with this but if others can tell me their stories I might be able to do this I don't know...Help please! I don't know what else to do and I have to get off these Ibuprophins...Thanks in advance

Mike
 
Re: Please help! Terrified Extractions.

Well, Mike you are a much better person than I, because no way could I have gone through what you have already done.

I too was faced with having teeth extracted and I was petrified, but I would rather have faced that than anything else. Although I like to be in control, I didnt want to know anything that was going on when I had teeth out. I was too afraid that if I saw the dentist coming towards me I would instinctively be pulling back and I didn't want to have the sensation of hearing anything let alone feeling any tugging so....

although I am equally phobic about injections,I decided to go for IV sedation so I would not be aware of anything going on. I didn't feel the numbing in the gum or the injections in the gum or anything at all.Some people may think that that was taking the control away from me, but I like to think otherwise. I chose to do it my way (anyone feel a song coming on;D). Anyway, I am sure you would be completely fine if you went for IV or even so many people are Ok with nitrous.
The internet is fine, no doubt about that, you can find a lot of information, but I also think that there is too much and in this case, I would stop looking for videos, it will only make you feel worse, I'm sure of that.

I know you say you don't want to be sedated, but then how about having something like valium beforehand to calm you a bit and then the nitrous.

As I say, I had IV and though I was terrified, even having that needle - more of a pin actually, was fine, I felt absolutely nothing afterwards at all. Woke up feeling absolutely fine and straight away took painkillers before the numbness wore off.
I can't answer your questions about whether your wisdoms can be saved, and I doubt if even our friendly dentists really can without seeing them.

I do hope though that you can get through whatever treatment you have to go through - in fact I know you can. So many of us have thought we could never face what we had to yet time after time there are so many success stories posted here from people who faced their fears, lived to tell the tale and remarkably almost always have said more or less nothing to it, their fears were groundless. I am sure it will be with you too, though at this stage, I quite understand your worries.:grouphug:
 
Re: Please help! Terrified Extractions.

I had three teeth pulled when I was ten with just local and I had an injection for each side of the mouth. I heard some cracking and popping, I tasted the blood:sick: and felt some pressure which wasent too bad.. I would have rather been put out with IV sedation or had laughing gas. I started crying while they were doing it because it was nasty and I was scared it was going to hurt but I was only 10.

I had another two done about 4 years later with IV sedation and laughing gas ( to get the needle in without me panicking), it went real well and it didnt hurt very much after it.

if you could get any form of sedation it would be the best thing for you to do because it will make the visit alot less stresfull.


-mike...ey;D
 
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Re: Please help! Terrified Extractions.

I had an extraction last month. It was my 2nd bottom right molar, which was cracked, infected, AND the roots were mangled with the widsom tooth behind it. That was sure to be no easy task, and I was just as terrified as you are.

I had it removed under nitrous and local injection, and I have to say the needle was the worst part of it. So if you have no problem with that, you should be fine!! Honestly, I didn't hear any cracking but there was a lot of pushing (not pulling). Due to the roots being all messed up, the dentist had to work really hard to get that sucker out. It didn't "hurt" but I won't lie and say that it was pleasant.

I popped a painkiller before the numbing wore off, and really, I didn't have much pain at all! There was some bleeding, a little swelling, and the stitches felt weird. The only pain I felt was my jaw being a little sore from keeping it open so long.

You'll be fine :)
 
Re: Please help! Terrified Extractions.

Hi Mike,
I had 2 extractions not long ago with nitrous and a local.Everything went fine.The nitrous is a BIG help believe me.Once you settle in and start to relax the rest really goes by quite smoothly.you might feel some pulling and stuff like that but the nitrous basically keeps it from bothering you.I was sort of half asleep for a few minutes and woke up to a pretty good tug but no pain.Basically I was thinking of how they'd be scraping me off of the ceiling if I weren't sedated.Good luck I'm sure all will go fine.
 
Re: Please help! Terrified Extractions.

Hey,

I had a tooth pulled 2 months ago and was absolutley terrified but I just kept telling myself to go because I knew the pain would only get worse if I didnt and the fact that you know you should see a dentist would always be on my mind. Put the whole thing in perspective, the procedure on one tooth took about 20minutes...yeh thats it just 20minutes for a pain free future and no more stress!! honestly the hardest thing is getting yourself to the place. I will try and tell you everything that happened: The dentist puts the numbing gel on your gums so you dont feel the needle (which if you have a good enough dentist you dont need anyway because its all about technique - they use the gel as a back up, ask he or she to inject as slow as possible and you dont feel a thing) then the dentist massages your gums to get the anaesthetic circulating, they should leave it for a while to kick in. Then they get a thing called an 'elevator' i think and push into the side of your tooth, this doesnt hurt you should just feel the pressure of the push. Complain at any point if you feel anything because depending on your size they can give up to 8 amps of anaesthetic. Then they rock the tooth back and forth until it pops out, I didnt hear any cracking or taste blood during mine. It isnt the most comfortable thing in the world but it is definatley tolerable, mostly its all just in your mind...I kept thinking it was just gonna get worse but it didnt at all and before I knew it, it was all over! I suppose the actual bit of 'pulling' the tooth out only took about 5minutes. Like you I was paranoid about getting a dry socket but as long as you dont suck or chew on that side you should be fine, whatever you do DONT rinse and spit as that could dislodge the clot which will have formed before you leave the dentist as he or she will make sure it has stopped bleeding before you leave. Salt rinses are AMAZING they make it feel better and speed up healing afterwards just make sure your very carfeful and dont rinse and spit just let it dribble over the area and out of your mouth.

I hope this helped, you will be fine and you will get through it and once you have you can go on and enjoy your life with healthy teeth! just make the phone call and get it all over and done with. Ive got to have two fillings tommorrow at 9am (england time) and im a bit worried I think its just become a habit to be scared of them!
 
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Re: Please help! Terrified Extractions.

While I haven't had my wisdom teeth extracted, I recently had a bottom molar and a root tip right next to it extracted a few weeks ago. This was my first time dealing with an extraction. I have anxiety disorder.

I took two lorezapams before the procedure. He didn't even use numbing gel. Gave me the shot, didn't feel a thing. A few minutes later, he started. Basically, all I felt was him pushing downward on the tooth. After just a few minutes, he stopped. I asked him what was wrong and he said, "I'm done". It was completely painless. I didn't feel or hear any cracking or anything. Don't have any fear. Any pain or uncomfortableness you may feel during most modern dental procedures (which is rare) is nothing compared to any long term pain and uncomfortableness that you have felt or will feel from neglect. As someone said, it is the anticipatory anxiety that is the killer. You just have to force yourself to get in the chair. Then take it one step at a time. Remember, you are in control, not the dentist. You have ultimate say over what happens.
 
Terrified please help! Getting 2 teeth out 1 is a wisdom tooth. 24 and a half hours to go Help!

Hi Everyone,

My name is Mike and I have posted before. Last year I had a deep cleaning done because I have periodontal disease, I had my 2 front teeth drilled and filled ( First time I ever had a cavity filled) and another tooth drilled and filled as well. I was terrified to say the least.

Now I need to have my upper wisdom tooth removed and the tooth next to that. I am 40 years old and never had a tooth removed before. As I said, I was terrifed before and with the help of everyone here I got through it. I am almost ashamed to be 40 and saying I am terrified but I am.

I remeber how I felt after I was done last year and the sense of joy, pride and achomplishemnt I fealt. I was really proud and thought I could get through anything and now this.

On Friday Frbruary 15th at 5:30 PM I will be jelly legged with my heart rate going through the roof and feeling sick like I was last year. I will be getting 2 teeth removed. I am afraid to be put to sleep so I will get some needles and I will focus on a part of the ceiling and stare at it while my dentist goes in and does what needs to be done.

I do not know how I am going to get through this one. I just can't seem to get comfortable with the idea of someone going into my mouth and pulling something off my body.

I am starting to get cold feet but I will force myself to go. I have to go. I have been taking large quatities of Ibuprophin for at least 6 months sometimes 12 ormore per day and I am afraid that if I keep it up I will damage my liver. The tooth next to the wisdom tooth was infected and I have been on antibiotics and was told that it is a little infected still but I should go through with getting it out on Friday.

Here are my questions and I thank anyone in advance for thier advice, comfort and stories that you may have to offer.

1) Will there be any other noises other than cracking noises?

2) What do I do after the teeth are out to avoid dry socket?

3) I was thinking of taking 800mg of Ibuprophin about an hour before I go in to avoid any pain and to also get a head start on any pain I may have after the teeth are removed. Some have said it could make me bleed more and not clot. Is this true? I thought it was Aspirin to avoid that thins it.

4) Is it really painless like many people say. Will I only feel pressure?

5) How many needles will I get?

6) My dentist says that the tooth next to the wisdom tooth is moving a bit more than the wisdom. Does this mean it will come out easier. They really do not move much at all but they do move a bit. My dentist said that the wisdom tooth could fall out while taking the tooth next to it out. Could this happen?

7) Will their be bone loss that will weaken my other teeth. ( I have some gum disease already)

8) Should I take medication on a regular basis to keep the pain at bay instead of waiting for pain which could be that much more harder to control.

9) I was given Vicodin or a generic form ( Hydrocodone ) last week when I had really bad pain. I took 3. 1 every six hours as prescribed with not much food and got sick. Should I even bother with these anymore and canI use Ibuprophin insted or Tylenol 3?

10) Being that there is a slight infection will the novacain take and numb me the way it should?

I am truly sorry for all the questions. Iam scared stiff. I know I have to go and can't wait to get this over because I will be free. I will be able to move forward with my life. I feel like a prisoner. Everything that makes me feel good in life is just over shadowed because I then think of what needs to be done with my teeth and I get really upset. I have been putting this off for over 6 months now and finally made the appoiontment, got xrays and then told everyone that I am going. I figured if I tell everyone then I will have to go or I will look pretty stupid after that.

I know I can get through it but it is the fear of the unknown that is really killing me here. I have even watched Youtube movies on peeple getting their teeth out and it does not bother me. I wanted to see what was going to go on so I can try to get comfortable. It works but the thought of it happening to me is really hard for me to overcome.


I don't know what to do and I guess Iam just overloaded now and going into terrifed mode. If someone can put a list of what to do before during and after ( to avoid dry socket) I would appreciate it. Whatever anyone has to offer whether it be success stories or nightmares just let me know. I feel if I can get through this, I will be able to get through any dental procedure after this...I just need to get through this somehow.

I already know I need a root canal on another tooth but I feel if I got through a deep cleaning, ( 16 needles. 8 on top and 8 on the bottom) went through 3 drillings and fillings on my 2 front teeth which were really deep I can get through a root canal. It is just this extraction thing that is driving me nuts.

Please help anyone! 24 and a half hours to go and I am terrified! Thank you all so much in advance!

Mike
 
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Re: Terrified please help! Getting 2 teeth out 1 is a wisdom tooth. 24 and a half hours to go Help!

Hi Mike! I just got a tooth pulled this morning along with a deep cleaning. Believe it or not, the worst part was the noise it made coming out :) I'll try to answer all your questions:
1) Will there be any other noises other than ckracking noises? None.

2) What do I do after the teeth are out to avoid dry socket? The dentist will give you instructions, but you'll place moistened gauze over the areas and change it every hour until the bleeding stops. DO NOT SMOKE.

3) I was thinking of taking 800mg of Ibuprophin about an hour before I go in toavoid any pain and to also get a head start on any pain I may have after the teeth are removed. Some have said it could make me bleed more and not clot. Is this true? I thought it was Aspirin toavoid that thins it. Don't take anything, and yes, it can cause more bleeding. I'm having absolutely NO pain at all, but you'll get a prescription for it just in case.

4) Isit really painless like many people say. Will I only feel pressure? YES!!!! And the pressure is minimal! Shocking, but true. I was preparing myself for the worst and was very pleasantly surprised.

5) How many needles will I get? I had a deep cleaning prior and don't even know how many I got. They will put numbing gel on the gums prior to giving the injections and you won't feel a thing. I promise :) After the deep cleaning is when they pulled the tooth, and they gave me a few more injections just to make sure. Again...felt nothing.

6) My dentist says that the tooth next to the wisdom tooth is moving a bit more than the wisdom. Does this mean it will come out easier. My dentist said that the wisdom tooth could fall out while taking the tooth next to it out. Could this happen? Hmmm...I don't know about that, but I would assume so.

7) Will their be bone loss that will weaken my other teeth. ( I have some gum disease already) Probably not unless you don't take care of the gum disease. That can be handled with a deep cleaning if the pockets aren't too bad.

8) Should I take medication on a regular basis to keep the pain at bay instead of waiting for pain which could be that much more harder to control. Some people/dentists suggest taking it within a few hours of leaving (before the numbness wears off), but I didn't take anything. It's been 8 hours and you'd never know I went to the dentist today.

9) I was given Vicodin or a generic form ( Hydrocodone ) last week when I had really bad pain. I took 3. 1 every six hours as prescribed with not much food and got sick. Should I even bother with these anymore and canI use Ibuprophin insted or Tylenol 3? I'm not touching that question because I'm not a doctor :) Don't take a thing without your doctors/dentists advice.

Last but not least...I promise you this will be fine! You will not feel a thing. I also suggest getting nitrous. That stuff is absolutely amazing and will REALLY help you relax. You won't care what the heck they do to you! Best of luck, and let us know how well you do!
Peace,
Susan
P.S. How to avoid dry socket: Less than 5% off all people will get this!
Prevention of dry socket:

Avoid drinking through a straw

Avoid smoking, it contaminates the extraction site

Avoid excessive mouth rinsing, it interferes with blood clotting

Keeping food from impacting in this area. Chew on the other side of your mouth and gently rinse your mouth with warm salt water after the first 24 hours.
 
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Re: Terrified please help! Getting 2 teeth out 1 is a wisdom tooth. 24 and a half hours to go Help!

Hey, you're in good company! You know we're here for ya. :XXLhug:

I had three wisdom teeth removed last Monday, and I most definitely survived. I once had a bad experience with the first wisdom tooth I had removed, but I now know that it's all down to who does your procedure. I was a wreck after having that one tooth out, but fine after having three done at once by a skilled, gentle dentist. If you're going to someone you trust, you should be fine too.

1) Will there be any other noises other than cracking noises? *Not really. The sounds used to bother me a lot because it kept me constantly aware of exactly what was going on in my mouth.... I tried nitrous and loved it, and I recommend that you do the same. The sounds become much less significant to you with its help.

2) What do I do after the teeth are out to avoid dry socket? *Dry socket happens if you suck out or otherwise disturb the newly-formed blood clot in the socket, so just avoid anything that causes suction to form in your mouth-- hence the ban on smoking and straws. Other than that, use common sense and be careful!

3) I was thinking of taking 800mg of Ibuprophin about an hour before I go in to avoid any pain and to also get a head start on any pain I may have after the teeth are removed. Some have said it could make me bleed more and not clot. Is this true? I thought it was Aspirin to avoid that thins it. *This I don't know.

4) Is it really painless like many people say. Will I only feel pressure? *As long as your dentist knows what he/she is doing-- it's true. My three extractions didn't hurt a bit-- I barely even felt pressure.

5) How many needles will I get? *However many it takes for you, whether that's only couple or quite a few. Remember though-- the needles don't have to hurt either. I hardly felt the ones I got.

6) My dentist says that the tooth next to the wisdom tooth is moving a bit more than the wisdom. Does this mean it will come out easier. They really do not move much at all but they do move a bit. My dentist said that the wisdom tooth could fall out while taking the tooth next to it out. Could this happen? *Not a dentist.

7) Will their be bone loss that will weaken my other teeth. ( I have some gum disease already) *Not a dentist.

8) Should I take medication on a regular basis to keep the pain at bay instead of waiting for pain which could be that much more harder to control. *This is true-- it's easier to prevent the pain than to eliminate pain that's already there.

9) I was given Vicodin or a generic form ( Hydrocodone ) last week when I had really bad pain. I took 3. 1 every six hours as prescribed with not much food and got sick. Should I even bother with these anymore and canI use Ibuprophin insted or Tylenol 3? *Not a dentist. I personally find that ibuprofen is the best for tooth pain, though it tears up my stomach if I take it too often or without food.

10) Being that there is a slight infection will the novacain take and numb me the way it should? *It should. I was worried about it myself, but I read in this site's information section that that's not so common. A skilled dentist can almost always get you numb!

There's how it looks from my perspective... three teeth lighter and a bit less afraid! :)
 
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10) Being that there is a slight infection will the novacain take and numb me the way it should? *It should. I was worried about it myself, but I read in this site's information section that that's not so common. A skilled dentist can almost always get you numb!

Mike, is this the one worrying you the most?
Basically if she can't get you numb enough - nitrous will help (she will be able to I'm sure) just call a halt and reschedule...keep the control....you'll be fine I'm sure.
 
Re: Terrified please help! Getting 2 teeth out 1 is a wisdom tooth. 24 and a half hours to go Help!

As brit said nitrous can help people who don't normally get numb very easy get numb:cheers:

Also extractions are 100% painless and the only thing I remember was a little pressure then seeing the tooth laying on the tray a few seconds later.

you can do it!:XXLhug:
 
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