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TW this post got dark and slightly graphic and too long, I'm sorry.
I posted here a while ago and everyone was very nice and encouraging but it's been weeks since then and I'm still paralyzed with fear, unable to tell anyone that I'm in pain and need to see a dentist and I'm totally incapable of considering going to one. I feel like there is no possibility for me now, I've tried therapy, hypnotherapy, drugs, exposure therapy...
The only possible way I could ever get treatment now is by undergoing major sedation or even general anesthesia as sedatives haven't been enough for me in the past. If I got treatment my parents would have to finance it, I'm a young adult and I still depend on them, I'd be unconscious and the dentist might not be able to give me a mortifying lecture over the state of my mouth but my parents would be informed of everything if they were present and paying for it. I suspect they'd not be happy as they seem to have just forgotten for years and years about me and the dentist and not considered the possibility that my teeth are getting screwed up in the meantime particularly from the cavity I had diagnosed 6 years ago which didn't magically go away and now has had half my face feeling weird for months.
I can just about handle the theoretical idea of a dentist who I don't know personally seeing my teeth if they didn't judge me for it, but I can't cope with the idea of my family knowing the extent of the damage. I find it embarrassing and repulsive. It also feels like too much to pile on their plates at the moment, there are people in my immediate and extended family having serious health problems at the moment that unlike mine aren't self inflicted, they don't need to be handling me having meltdowns and big medical bills.
I honestly would rather just kill myself than continue to deal with this, continue to not be able to chew my food properly or feel like I want to claw half my face off from the weird pain, feeling like any day the pain could get way worse or I could get an infection or my teeth could fall out or I could knock them out while trying to brush them. The main reason I haven't is because I'm currently scared an immediate family member, my sister, could die or be really sick and to bail on her like that not to mention leaving my parents potentially alone just feels like the most selfish move imaginable.
I don't know what I'm expecting anyone to be able to say to this but I'm really lost and I'll take any support gladly
I posted here a while ago and everyone was very nice and encouraging but it's been weeks since then and I'm still paralyzed with fear, unable to tell anyone that I'm in pain and need to see a dentist and I'm totally incapable of considering going to one. I feel like there is no possibility for me now, I've tried therapy, hypnotherapy, drugs, exposure therapy...
The only possible way I could ever get treatment now is by undergoing major sedation or even general anesthesia as sedatives haven't been enough for me in the past. If I got treatment my parents would have to finance it, I'm a young adult and I still depend on them, I'd be unconscious and the dentist might not be able to give me a mortifying lecture over the state of my mouth but my parents would be informed of everything if they were present and paying for it. I suspect they'd not be happy as they seem to have just forgotten for years and years about me and the dentist and not considered the possibility that my teeth are getting screwed up in the meantime particularly from the cavity I had diagnosed 6 years ago which didn't magically go away and now has had half my face feeling weird for months.
I can just about handle the theoretical idea of a dentist who I don't know personally seeing my teeth if they didn't judge me for it, but I can't cope with the idea of my family knowing the extent of the damage. I find it embarrassing and repulsive. It also feels like too much to pile on their plates at the moment, there are people in my immediate and extended family having serious health problems at the moment that unlike mine aren't self inflicted, they don't need to be handling me having meltdowns and big medical bills.
I honestly would rather just kill myself than continue to deal with this, continue to not be able to chew my food properly or feel like I want to claw half my face off from the weird pain, feeling like any day the pain could get way worse or I could get an infection or my teeth could fall out or I could knock them out while trying to brush them. The main reason I haven't is because I'm currently scared an immediate family member, my sister, could die or be really sick and to bail on her like that not to mention leaving my parents potentially alone just feels like the most selfish move imaginable.
I don't know what I'm expecting anyone to be able to say to this but I'm really lost and I'll take any support gladly