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I have not been to the dentist in 5 years

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luckyman316

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As a child, I used to LOVE going to the dentist. So much so that I considered becoming a dentist myself. I remember saying as a kid "When I grow up, I want to be a dentist". Years went on and a family friend was a dentist that I'd go to at least every 8 months... sometimes I'd let it go a year, but I never had any issues with them.

2013 changed this right when they retired and my body dealt with an illness at the same time I needed a root canal, which eventually caused tinnitus for me. I ended up having to see other dentists for this because my dentist retired (he was not the one who did the root canal) so over the course of 2 years, it was other dentists.

After having crowns redone, which it's sort of a crown bridge now, in 2015 and then told I needed more dental work than I thought was necessary, I stopped going to the dentist. My body was still weak from the illness that became chronic for me and sitting in a dentist chair became quite a task.

As the years went by, I've been letting a lot go. These crowns still don't feel right, as I feel they are not seated properly. I also still have a white abscess on my gums that come and go, it's under the tooth that had a root canal done and has been like this since 2018.

I'm at a point now where I know I absolutely need to see one, but my experiences with these dentists after our family friend retired has left a bad taste in my mouth to the point where I've had a lot of fear of going there. Not only this, but my body is still weak and I now have a horrible neck which makes it even more difficult to support myself when sitting down.

However, I've been trying to find the courage enough to get to a dentist in the area. I had to make a few calls and unfortunately almost all of them are out of network in my area, but they do work with my insurance. Financially, I'm a mess, so I want to find one in network but the 2 I found... one is just a standard practice that got really bad reviews and the other, I'm not sure on because there aren't a lot of patients leaving reviews but the ones that do, gave him good ones. I just don't know what he uses in his practice with latest tech, which is what I was looking for with one dentist right down the road from me, but of course he too is out of network.

Anyway, just coming here for support before I finally book an appointment with someone. There's so much wrong with me and my teeth are just part of the problem. I even feel like my jaw shifted from these issues as well with the crowns not being seated right.
 
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Ilovemydentistreally

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luckyman316,
Hi. I wonder if you can maybe call the dentist (the one with the good reviews) maybe just with the view to getting a first appointment just to discuss things. I don't think it's unreasonable to want to enquire about stuff, given you have other concerns that you feel may make a "routine" appointment more complex.
No harm in asking, and you don't have to commit to anything?
 
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luckyman316,
Hi. I wonder if you can maybe call the dentist (the one with the good reviews) maybe just with the view to getting a first appointment just to discuss things. I don't think it's unreasonable to want to enquire about stuff, given you have other concerns that you feel may make a "routine" appointment more complex.
No harm in asking, and you don't have to commit to anything?

They actually do offer a free consultation on the first visit... and they take digital x-rays, do Trios and do a 3D cone x-ray as well. The dentist was actually rated best in the state in December 2019 and I can literally walk there if I want. I just don't want to commit to stuff Out of Network with my insurance. The other one In-Network is opened only 3 days a week, so I'll have to wait until Monday now for certain with him.
 
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I'd take the free consultation, if you can. At least that would let you have a idea of how things are.
Maybe that would put your mind at ease. If not, at least you know what needs done. But you don't have to commit to it if you don't feel like it.
Sounds like a good option! Best in the state? :) That's reassuring...
 
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I'd take the free consultation, if you can. At least that would let you have a idea of how things are.
Maybe that would put your mind at ease. If not, at least you know what needs done. But you don't have to commit to it if you don't feel like it.
Sounds like a good option! Best in the state? :) That's reassuring...
So good news, I made an appointment. I actually could have gotten one today but my schedule did not allow it, so I have it for Tuesday. Now I'm hoping I can keep it! I walked in there and a lot of my anxiety left me so that is a good sign!
 
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I don’t have any advice (not a dentist) but I do send you encouragement. You are demonstrating a lot of courage. Keep us posted.
 
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Sorry to hear you have to deal with this on top of other health issues. Huge congratulations on getting and making the appointment, that in itself is hard. It sounds like you have been though a lot outside of dental work so I'm sure you got this!
 
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Hi luckyman316,

just read your story and wanted to say well done on keeping on going and looking for practices and now even scheduling. Sounds like the experiences you had after your dentist retired did damaged your confidence in dentistry a lot and I know how hard it can be to get back on track from there. Dentist is like a good hairdresser and a lot of it has to do with trust and feeling like they know what they do.
Sorry to read about your health issues and I see how it makes your ability to cope even worse. To give you a bit of reassurance, there are many people dealing with issues that make them unable to sit in the chair or do so for too long. Please, don't hesitate to speak up and let your dental team know. They will be able to find a comfortable position for you and make sure you get breaks whenever needed. Dealing with this is a part of their job. I can also only encourage you to share about your fears and bad experiences as it will all help your dental team to look after you better.
I was delighted to read that your anxiety left you as you walked in and I couln't imagine a better sign for this place to be a good one :)

All the best wishes, keeping my fingers tightly crossed for you on Tuesday and let us know how you got on (and feel free to pop in any worries or fears that might arise during the waiting time, writing helps:)
 
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Thank you all for your kind words and support. One of my good friends is a dental hygienist in the area and has told me if I need a 2nd opinion on anything to come in and see them as well. She worries that someone may try to take advantage of me after hearing I have not been going to the dentist for 5 years. She hopes this place will not do this (I can legit walk to the office from my house if I needed to) but just urges me caution just in case. I will keep all posted on Tuesday for certain. I'm happy to learn that the dentist I am seeing, one of a few in the practice and also lives in the area, is also a prosthodondist which I believe is EXACTLY what I need. I've been to one before, they told me my bite was off because of my crowns before I had them redone at another practice, so I want to see what this one says about the new ones. I'm actually looking forward to Tuesday's appointment!
 
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Good to hear you are looking forward to the appointment! I'm not there yet (trying) so admire your courage.

I don't think you need to tell the dentist you haven't been in 5 years, that's just a number and wont change the current condition of your teeth now either way.
 
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luckyman316

Hope everything goes well Tuesday!! You are making great strides.. The great thing is you are in control and have total choice and can go to as many places you need to make sure you feel the most comfortable and that is really empowering. I know when I was shopping for a dentist after mine had left his practice I went to a few places , and several were actually great and doable.. it was nice to get that experience and see different places without feeling pressure of having to be in the chair for treatment right away.. after all that I ended up finding my dentist again and going to him at a new clinic .. but the journey was a good and interesting one. Let us know how this goes for you :) :).
 
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