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Poppa
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Hi, my names Chris. I'm writing to you today because I am very very very upset. I cannot get over the fact that the woman I love so very very much, of 27 years got her dentures Friday. She's 42 years old. She's lived with bad teeth for the last 10-12 years. She was diagnosed with Periodontal disease and that had progressed for years, lost lots of bone, after two opinions and our own thoughts about it, we finally talked it over and we both agreed dentures was the way to go. She was tired of the pain, her smile, and just everything about her natural teeth. We live on a very limited income and implants we just cannot afford. How I wish we could, because at this point I'm more afraid than she is. I suffer from depression, anxiety, bipolar, social issues and just constant sadness, I can't find a happy place anymore in my life. She is my happy place. I love her more than I love myself. She's golden, she's brave, strong, kind hearted and there's never a day she is not happy. For her to be going through this is killing me.
Well Friday, she was a trooper. She got them all pulled and got immediate dentures because she didn't want to go without teeth. As far as I can tell, she's doing great. Way better than I would be taking it. I don't know how to be strong for her. I swear she cried none yesterday and I cried all day, several times throughout the day. I can't get past it. The dentures don't bother me. I'm eat up with guilt because I as a man fell into this state of depression, social issues, and always worrying about what other people think that I haven't been able to work for awhile now. And I blame myself for not having a job which would have provided dental insurance, and maybe this would have never happened. I've cried so much, I'm even crying now. She hasn't complained one bit really. But I can tell she's a little frustrated. She's mainly having trouble swallowing and she also gags often. It makes me so sad for her. I want to help her but I don't know how.
Saturday was just as good but she did have a moment where she cried. She cried not because of pain, but because she can't feel anything in her mouth anymore. She doesn't understand how she'll be able to eat anything. She's afraid of getting choked on jello. She can't feel it and even after letting it sit in her mouth, since she can only feel it on her tongue,she doesn't know when to swallow. Like say in the future, a hamburger for example. How would she eat it? How with not being able to feel the size of the food with top and bottom dentures in place is she supposed to learn that the size of the food is safe to swallow. I got her to try a tic tac, I read that sucking on candy helped in some way. My mom a denture wearer said she too is afraid to suck on candy, but I did read several different places that sucking on candy helped. But she immediately spit it out. Her reason,she couldn't feel it and feared it'd slip down her throat. This so far has been her only concern. She CANNOT see it ever happening and it has her be discouraged. Even to the point where already she has wished for her - as she called them - her jacked up teeth back.
I guess my main questions would be will she adapt, will she be able to swallow, she gags on occasion, will the gagging stop? She seems to talk a little different. And for me, the worst part is when I look at her I miss seeing her face the way it was. It looks a bit different and it makes me sad. I feel, and this is me not her, I feel that inside she feels lost,lonely, sad, etc but is trying to be so strong for me, because she knows I'm so fragile. I just can't stop crying. Please tell me something, anything please. Am I too having to adjust to her new look, will the day come where it won't be as noticeable to me? I love her no matter what and were only on day 2. We both researched and researched and knew what to expect. I just didn't intend for me to fall to pieces because my heart goes out to her and I feel that there's nothing I can do.
She is the kindest person I've even met in the entire world. She's my wife, the mother of my three boys. She's always happy, always smiling and nothing ever gets her down. I'm so afraid. I guess I just wanted to get some stuff off my chest. She doesn't deserve this. She deserves better than me. This transition may in fact be harder on me than it will be her, she's that strong. I just wish y'all knew her. You'd know the beautiful woman she is inside and out, with or without teeth. I'm just scared for her. I love her so much.
If you have any kind words, advice, tips (mainly with the fear of choking I guess) or any tips for that matter please please please don't hesitate to reply. I'm an emotional mess anyway and any and all advice is appreciated. But if you will, overlook where I talked about my issues, because I can deal with it. What I can't deal with is not being able to help her. This entire family's happiness revolves around this wonderful woman I call my wife and the mother of our three children. Please, I'm reaching out to anyone. Can you give us hope?
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Well Friday, she was a trooper. She got them all pulled and got immediate dentures because she didn't want to go without teeth. As far as I can tell, she's doing great. Way better than I would be taking it. I don't know how to be strong for her. I swear she cried none yesterday and I cried all day, several times throughout the day. I can't get past it. The dentures don't bother me. I'm eat up with guilt because I as a man fell into this state of depression, social issues, and always worrying about what other people think that I haven't been able to work for awhile now. And I blame myself for not having a job which would have provided dental insurance, and maybe this would have never happened. I've cried so much, I'm even crying now. She hasn't complained one bit really. But I can tell she's a little frustrated. She's mainly having trouble swallowing and she also gags often. It makes me so sad for her. I want to help her but I don't know how.
Saturday was just as good but she did have a moment where she cried. She cried not because of pain, but because she can't feel anything in her mouth anymore. She doesn't understand how she'll be able to eat anything. She's afraid of getting choked on jello. She can't feel it and even after letting it sit in her mouth, since she can only feel it on her tongue,she doesn't know when to swallow. Like say in the future, a hamburger for example. How would she eat it? How with not being able to feel the size of the food with top and bottom dentures in place is she supposed to learn that the size of the food is safe to swallow. I got her to try a tic tac, I read that sucking on candy helped in some way. My mom a denture wearer said she too is afraid to suck on candy, but I did read several different places that sucking on candy helped. But she immediately spit it out. Her reason,she couldn't feel it and feared it'd slip down her throat. This so far has been her only concern. She CANNOT see it ever happening and it has her be discouraged. Even to the point where already she has wished for her - as she called them - her jacked up teeth back.
I guess my main questions would be will she adapt, will she be able to swallow, she gags on occasion, will the gagging stop? She seems to talk a little different. And for me, the worst part is when I look at her I miss seeing her face the way it was. It looks a bit different and it makes me sad. I feel, and this is me not her, I feel that inside she feels lost,lonely, sad, etc but is trying to be so strong for me, because she knows I'm so fragile. I just can't stop crying. Please tell me something, anything please. Am I too having to adjust to her new look, will the day come where it won't be as noticeable to me? I love her no matter what and were only on day 2. We both researched and researched and knew what to expect. I just didn't intend for me to fall to pieces because my heart goes out to her and I feel that there's nothing I can do.
She is the kindest person I've even met in the entire world. She's my wife, the mother of my three boys. She's always happy, always smiling and nothing ever gets her down. I'm so afraid. I guess I just wanted to get some stuff off my chest. She doesn't deserve this. She deserves better than me. This transition may in fact be harder on me than it will be her, she's that strong. I just wish y'all knew her. You'd know the beautiful woman she is inside and out, with or without teeth. I'm just scared for her. I love her so much.
If you have any kind words, advice, tips (mainly with the fear of choking I guess) or any tips for that matter please please please don't hesitate to reply. I'm an emotional mess anyway and any and all advice is appreciated. But if you will, overlook where I talked about my issues, because I can deal with it. What I can't deal with is not being able to help her. This entire family's happiness revolves around this wonderful woman I call my wife and the mother of our three children. Please, I'm reaching out to anyone. Can you give us hope?
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