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Andreic7
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I'm 25 years old, and have had a dental phobia ever since I was a kid and had some experiences with a dentist who didn't know how to work with children. This was when I was 6 or 7. Since then, I have only gone to the dentist twice.
Once in 2011, for a molar extraction. The abscess had gotten so bad that my whole cheek was swollen almost up to my eye. So I took antibiotics for a week then I had the extraction. When I first felt the local anesthesia I started to panic and wanted to leave, but pulled through it and it was over in a minute. The second time was in 2012, when I had a filling in one of my front teeth It was bad, but having work done on the front teeth makes me panic less than having work done on the back teeth(the dental trauma in childhood was from root canals on molars).
Anyway, all my molars + a premolar have cavities, are broken and rotten. In 2015 I had an abscess on my molar and I went to the dentist, but just took the antibiotics prescription and never came back. The abscess got better from the 10 days of antibiotics but the gum would still swell up a little from time to time and I'd take ibuprofen for it. But I was relatively pain free.
Until December 2017, when the pain was so bad that I couldn't sleep so I made an appointment with a dentist near me. We only had a consultation, but it was bad. When I was telling him about my trauma and my fears he wasn't even looking at me, he was looking at the TV in the room. Then when I wanted to discuss future procedures and said that one thing that would make me feel better is if I put an earbud in to listen to music, he literally rolled hi eyes. Then when the X-ray came, he told me how much it would cost to fix everything, and I said that I don't have that kind of money, and that we should only focus on what's urgent. But then he said that he won't even start if I won't do the whole treatment with him now, because that's not how he likes to work.
So I decided to not contribute to the income of a shitty person and didn't make further appointments with him. I was supposed to look for another dentist, but the pain kind of stopped and it wasn't that big of an issue so I didn't. But now it came back again, and it's bad. I only slept an hour and a half last night. I feel my lower left side getting swollen. It's the molar that had the abscess in 2015, plus the molar next to it which is badly decayed, plus the wisdom tooth which has a huge cavity. So I need to go asap but I can't. I'm in so much pain yet can't get help because of my fear.
My biggest issues with going to the dentist are: Fear of chocking/not being able to breathe, fear of anesthesia causing me a panic attack(I have an panic disorders so attacks aren't uncommon), and the fear of having an attack so bad that I would have to run away from the office and the doctors/nurses and the people in the waiting room will see me and consider me inferior.
In order to be comfortable enough for an extraction or a root canal, I would have to be able to take breaks whenever I feel like I'm choking. And the dentist would have to explain the procedure to me both before it starts, and each step during so I know what's happening in my mouth. And I would have to tell him about my panic attacks so that I feel less ashamed if I have one.
The problem is I don't think I'll find a dentist that will accommodate my requests, because I live in Romania and there is no extra mile here. People, doctors included, don't give a shit about you even if it's their job to do so.
I don't know what to do.
Once in 2011, for a molar extraction. The abscess had gotten so bad that my whole cheek was swollen almost up to my eye. So I took antibiotics for a week then I had the extraction. When I first felt the local anesthesia I started to panic and wanted to leave, but pulled through it and it was over in a minute. The second time was in 2012, when I had a filling in one of my front teeth It was bad, but having work done on the front teeth makes me panic less than having work done on the back teeth(the dental trauma in childhood was from root canals on molars).
Anyway, all my molars + a premolar have cavities, are broken and rotten. In 2015 I had an abscess on my molar and I went to the dentist, but just took the antibiotics prescription and never came back. The abscess got better from the 10 days of antibiotics but the gum would still swell up a little from time to time and I'd take ibuprofen for it. But I was relatively pain free.
Until December 2017, when the pain was so bad that I couldn't sleep so I made an appointment with a dentist near me. We only had a consultation, but it was bad. When I was telling him about my trauma and my fears he wasn't even looking at me, he was looking at the TV in the room. Then when I wanted to discuss future procedures and said that one thing that would make me feel better is if I put an earbud in to listen to music, he literally rolled hi eyes. Then when the X-ray came, he told me how much it would cost to fix everything, and I said that I don't have that kind of money, and that we should only focus on what's urgent. But then he said that he won't even start if I won't do the whole treatment with him now, because that's not how he likes to work.
So I decided to not contribute to the income of a shitty person and didn't make further appointments with him. I was supposed to look for another dentist, but the pain kind of stopped and it wasn't that big of an issue so I didn't. But now it came back again, and it's bad. I only slept an hour and a half last night. I feel my lower left side getting swollen. It's the molar that had the abscess in 2015, plus the molar next to it which is badly decayed, plus the wisdom tooth which has a huge cavity. So I need to go asap but I can't. I'm in so much pain yet can't get help because of my fear.
My biggest issues with going to the dentist are: Fear of chocking/not being able to breathe, fear of anesthesia causing me a panic attack(I have an panic disorders so attacks aren't uncommon), and the fear of having an attack so bad that I would have to run away from the office and the doctors/nurses and the people in the waiting room will see me and consider me inferior.
In order to be comfortable enough for an extraction or a root canal, I would have to be able to take breaks whenever I feel like I'm choking. And the dentist would have to explain the procedure to me both before it starts, and each step during so I know what's happening in my mouth. And I would have to tell him about my panic attacks so that I feel less ashamed if I have one.
The problem is I don't think I'll find a dentist that will accommodate my requests, because I live in Romania and there is no extra mile here. People, doctors included, don't give a shit about you even if it's their job to do so.
I don't know what to do.