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soozypoo
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Hi people,being a dental phobe myself and come through the other side I need advice on how to approach the subject with my partner about his oral health. We have been together 3 years and are getting married next summer,I didn't realise to begin with he had bad teeth, and I don't know if it has got to the stage where he is either ashamed to go,worried about cost, or has a phobia.
Basically his front top teeth to the canines on either side are just blackish stubs poking out the gum,i have heard him grinding teeth in his sleep so not sure if that is what has ground them away over the years or just neglect.
Since we have been together he hasn't been for any check ups in fact I don't know if he has ever been to a dentist as he said he has never had an extraction or a filling, anyway we were eating lunch and one of his back teeth break off,so I say are you going to visit a dentist and get it fixed,if you leave it, the problems will get bigger and the eventual cost be more. I said believe me I know, He replied if I go they will take one look at my teeth and laugh, then he was on about cost etc, yet he is willing to pay £400 for a bonsai tree.
Ive also noticed I don't think he cleans his teeth(although he calls my teenage son for not doing his) ive put his brush against a spare in different positions for the last week and it never moves, and when he speaks there is lots of old food stuck around his gum line and in the gaps between teeth, he never flosses either I don't think,so all that stagnant food and lots of coffee, well it doesn't smell too good at times,but how do you tell someone they need to clean their teeth without offending them????
Also as we are getting married I'm sure he doesn't want wedding photos where he won't smile, I'd love to know how to best help advise, but he thinks the cost is a rip off,when I go he says about how much I pay etc but I want to keep my teeth!
Any advice greatly appreciated
Basically his front top teeth to the canines on either side are just blackish stubs poking out the gum,i have heard him grinding teeth in his sleep so not sure if that is what has ground them away over the years or just neglect.
Since we have been together he hasn't been for any check ups in fact I don't know if he has ever been to a dentist as he said he has never had an extraction or a filling, anyway we were eating lunch and one of his back teeth break off,so I say are you going to visit a dentist and get it fixed,if you leave it, the problems will get bigger and the eventual cost be more. I said believe me I know, He replied if I go they will take one look at my teeth and laugh, then he was on about cost etc, yet he is willing to pay £400 for a bonsai tree.
Ive also noticed I don't think he cleans his teeth(although he calls my teenage son for not doing his) ive put his brush against a spare in different positions for the last week and it never moves, and when he speaks there is lots of old food stuck around his gum line and in the gaps between teeth, he never flosses either I don't think,so all that stagnant food and lots of coffee, well it doesn't smell too good at times,but how do you tell someone they need to clean their teeth without offending them????
Also as we are getting married I'm sure he doesn't want wedding photos where he won't smile, I'd love to know how to best help advise, but he thinks the cost is a rip off,when I go he says about how much I pay etc but I want to keep my teeth!
Any advice greatly appreciated