Looking for help with EXTREME EXTREME dentist fear beyond belief

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cricket0148

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am coming here with a question. I am a 37 year old female who has an EXTREME fear of dentists due to a horrible dental experience when i was under 10 where i was afraid of the drill and the male dental assistant held me down. i was terrified. Needless to say, I never went back and saw a different dentist 10 years later only rather than discuss options, drilled cavities in the front of my teeth and naturally fast forward to current, those fillings fell out and due to lack of insurance and finances, never could get them taken care of. in my teens, i had braces for a short run as the glue and my teeth did not gel together and the glue literally ate my enamel. Anyways, at this current time, i know i need dentures. there is no saving or fixing. i have about 9 of my natural teeth left due to my own stupidity and not taking care of my teeth due to the EXTREME fear of dentists i have had. i am actually screaming for dentures at this point so i can smile. I know without a doubt i have gum disease and would like to start tackling this at home. I have no insurance, lack of finances, and before we even jump, i dont qualify for any kind of help from the state or free clinics.. according to them, i make too much money... thats a joke. i have 2 little girls who are the loves of my life and basically a single mother so finances are very, very tight. My 19 month old is quite active and several months ago she headbutted me in the cheek, which left me with a knot on the inside of my cheek, that i panicked over and thought oh no here is oral cancer. The knot has reduced in size, tends to fluctuate with eating. i dont even know its there unless i probe with my tongue, which i cant seem to keep my tongue out of, or my finger. I have posted on other boards only to be ridiculed and told well i made this bed, now i need to lay in it. :shame::cry:
 
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am coming here with a question. I am a 37 year old female who has an EXTREME fear of dentists due to a horrible dental experience when i was under 10 where i was afraid of the drill and the male dental assistant held me down. i was terrified. Needless to say, I never went back and saw a different dentist 10 years later only rather than discuss options, drilled cavities in the front of my teeth and naturally fast forward to current, those fillings fell out and due to lack of insurance and finances, never could get them taken care of. in my teens, i had braces for a short run as the glue and my teeth did not gel together and the glue literally ate my enamel. Anyways, at this current time, i know i need dentures. there is no saving or fixing. i have about 9 of my natural teeth left due to my own stupidity and not taking care of my teeth due to the EXTREME fear of dentists i have had. i am actually screaming for dentures at this point so i can smile. I know without a doubt i have gum disease and would like to start tackling this at home. I have no insurance, lack of finances, and before we even jump, i dont qualify for any kind of help from the state or free clinics.. according to them, i make too much money... thats a joke. i have 2 little girls who are the loves of my life and basically a single mother so finances are very, very tight. My 19 month old is quite active and several months ago she headbutted me in the cheek, which left me with a knot on the inside of my cheek, that i panicked over and thought oh no here is oral cancer. The knot has reduced in size, tends to fluctuate with eating. i dont even know its there unless i probe with my tongue, which i cant seem to keep my tongue out of, or my finger. I have posted on other boards only to be ridiculed and told well i made this bed, now i need to lay in it. :shame::cry:

I dont know anything about financial side of thingas I have paid for all mine and very costly, I understand ur fear I am 30 and just plucked up the courage have extractions, by sounds of it I would of thought they would remove the remaining and do a full set thats what happened witb my mum. I was lucky enough to find a dentist 7 years ago and after a while I trusted him to do anything he talks ti me the whole time and goes at my pace try look around ur area for dentist that specialises in nervous patients go for a chat hope u find someone like I did best of luck
 
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''The knot has reduced in size, tends to fluctuate with eating.''
this maybe due to a blockage in the duct that carries saliva from the gland into your mouth. If so, the swelling will tend to increase when you eat/drink then gradually subside.If it was caused by your accident then it may just resolve itself although if it becomes completely blocked then it does become painful I'm afraid.
 
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