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ellax
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- Nov 28, 2010
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Hi everyone
I'm a 30 year old mum living in the North East of England and have always been afraid of the dentist. I have been reading the forum for a while as I need to have a tooth taken out and although I'm terrified I have no choice now but to phone a dentist tomorrow.
A piece of the tooth (a molar at the back) broke off about 2 and a half years ago but I just ignored it because I wasn't in pain. Just over 2 years ago I got an absess in it, I have never felt pain like it and after 2 days in horrific pain I went to the dentist.
Things couldn't of started off any worse when I walked into the room and the dental nurse was my brothers ex girlfriend! She started asking me all about my brother and family which I really couldnt cope with, then the dentist came in and I couldnt understand a word she was saying to me. She never explained anything, never acknowledged how nervous I was (I have a history of anxiety and panic attacks), she just drilled down into the tooth and packed it up to come back in a week after I had a course of antibiotics. I asked what would happen when I came back and she said it would be pulled, my brothers ex girlfriend then told her to show me all the stuff they use to pull teeth out, which she did
I asked to see another dentist and the following week I saw a lovely guy who did 4 x fillings and took x rays with the view of doing root canal on the tooth to save it. By now I was feeling quite brave and had an appointment to go back but on the morning the surgery cancelled because they had a small fire!! It was booked again, and was again cancelled, because the dentist had left. I spent a couple of week ringing up to see if they had a replacement dentist because there was no way I was seeing the other dentist, and I really wanted to get it done before my wedding a few weeks later.
Anyway to cut a long story short, I never had the root canal treatment and over the last 2 years bits of the tooth have broken off and now I only have about a third of it left above the gumline and I'm more scared than ever and it is VERY loose in my mouth. The pain has never been anything like it was with the abcess but enough is enough, I have been controlled by fear for over 2 years because of it, not knowing if, or when, I would get toothache again, dreading holidays and weekends incase dentists were shut, fed up up chewing on one side of my mouth, etc, and most recently the thought of the tooth just shearing off as I'm quite certain it's not attached to the roots anymore.
SO I have decided that I have to phone a dentist in the morning, face up to the fear and get it removed. The NHS dentist has made me terrified so I have decided to go to a completley private surgery that I found (they also do massages, botox, manicures etc and it looks very posh) where hopefully they will listen to all my fears and not rush me because afterall I'm paying for it arnt I?
I'm not really sure why I am writing this and I do apologise how long winded it is, so well done if you got this far
Edited to add:
I tried to phone on Friday afternoon but just couldn't do it and although I have been quite determined all weekend to make an appointment, I am really starting to loose my resolve. I keep imagining how I will feel once it's over and done with and how proud I will be of myself but it's losing it's effect on me. I will probably be up all night reading the posts on here and watching videos on Youtube because it give me a strange kind of comfort knowing what is going to happen and knowing that other people have managed to do it
I'm a 30 year old mum living in the North East of England and have always been afraid of the dentist. I have been reading the forum for a while as I need to have a tooth taken out and although I'm terrified I have no choice now but to phone a dentist tomorrow.
A piece of the tooth (a molar at the back) broke off about 2 and a half years ago but I just ignored it because I wasn't in pain. Just over 2 years ago I got an absess in it, I have never felt pain like it and after 2 days in horrific pain I went to the dentist.
Things couldn't of started off any worse when I walked into the room and the dental nurse was my brothers ex girlfriend! She started asking me all about my brother and family which I really couldnt cope with, then the dentist came in and I couldnt understand a word she was saying to me. She never explained anything, never acknowledged how nervous I was (I have a history of anxiety and panic attacks), she just drilled down into the tooth and packed it up to come back in a week after I had a course of antibiotics. I asked what would happen when I came back and she said it would be pulled, my brothers ex girlfriend then told her to show me all the stuff they use to pull teeth out, which she did
I asked to see another dentist and the following week I saw a lovely guy who did 4 x fillings and took x rays with the view of doing root canal on the tooth to save it. By now I was feeling quite brave and had an appointment to go back but on the morning the surgery cancelled because they had a small fire!! It was booked again, and was again cancelled, because the dentist had left. I spent a couple of week ringing up to see if they had a replacement dentist because there was no way I was seeing the other dentist, and I really wanted to get it done before my wedding a few weeks later.
Anyway to cut a long story short, I never had the root canal treatment and over the last 2 years bits of the tooth have broken off and now I only have about a third of it left above the gumline and I'm more scared than ever and it is VERY loose in my mouth. The pain has never been anything like it was with the abcess but enough is enough, I have been controlled by fear for over 2 years because of it, not knowing if, or when, I would get toothache again, dreading holidays and weekends incase dentists were shut, fed up up chewing on one side of my mouth, etc, and most recently the thought of the tooth just shearing off as I'm quite certain it's not attached to the roots anymore.
SO I have decided that I have to phone a dentist in the morning, face up to the fear and get it removed. The NHS dentist has made me terrified so I have decided to go to a completley private surgery that I found (they also do massages, botox, manicures etc and it looks very posh) where hopefully they will listen to all my fears and not rush me because afterall I'm paying for it arnt I?
I'm not really sure why I am writing this and I do apologise how long winded it is, so well done if you got this far
Edited to add:
I tried to phone on Friday afternoon but just couldn't do it and although I have been quite determined all weekend to make an appointment, I am really starting to loose my resolve. I keep imagining how I will feel once it's over and done with and how proud I will be of myself but it's losing it's effect on me. I will probably be up all night reading the posts on here and watching videos on Youtube because it give me a strange kind of comfort knowing what is going to happen and knowing that other people have managed to do it
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