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Seeing dentist after 27 years in a few hours

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Scared stiff 2018

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I’m scared out of my mind,can’t sleep petrified and wish this could just go away. My hisband of 3 years known 4 1/2 years has no idea how long it has been since I’ve gone. My parents only took us to the dentist 2 times growing up the. I went once for a broken tooth at 23 all three were bad experiences. As a child we didn’t get novaccaine they just started drilling . If I cried after we left my dad gave us the belt. Now at 50 years old I feel like a small Child and can’t stop crying. My Son is going to go with me all they are going to do is look and take x-rays.,....and I guess watch me cry. My Hubby has been awesome holding me reassurance me he even offered to tak time off from work but I told him no because they aren’t going to do anything this visit. My Sister over the year has turned into my dad (that was the worse). I texted her yesterday hoping she would help
matyers all she could say was “tell the Dr twist your a Wussy Butt and to give you extra novacain when they pull out your teeth”. I ended up hanging up on her then the text messages started rolling in from her. I want to cancel the appointment so bad but my teeth keep hurting.....my Hubby told me if he could go in my place he would...,.,I told him I’d let him......I’m so scared
 
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Good luck at the dentist, dont forget to tell the dentist when you go you are worried, It is great that someone is going with you, you said that your husband would swap places with you.

Even though I go to the dentist regularly I still get scared and nervous.
 
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Bless your heart. This must be terrible for you, but the advice I would give is to first and foremost try and meet the prospective dentist in a neutral setting before he or she even looks inside you. I have been doing just this myself recently before finding a practice I feel comfortable with (although have not yet fully settled on the dentist within but am seeing one who seems very suitable).

I have been so overwhelmed and touched at how helpful kind and accommodating the people I have met have been, including those who have not been able to physically help, yet pass on advice and support.

One practice gave me some incredibly useful advice which seems so stupid, yet is absolutely the right path, and I think this is highly appropriate to your situation. That is: seek out a dentist who specialises in paediatrics; if they can help a crying baby, I am sure they can help out an equally traumatised adult! Both you and I went through terrible things as children, so it is only right that we find the people with the right experience to help.

At the end of the day, it is all about the person, as if on a date; if you feel comfortable with them, chances are any following treatments will be equally successful and positive. Coupled with that, the venue says a lot; if the waiting area is white with plastic chairs and pictures of teeth on the walls, chances are the place might be a bit intimidating and not very understanding; conversely, if the same area is inviting with comfy sofas, nice scenery pictures, plants and tea and coffee offered on entry, chances are you are in for a very pleasant and caring experience! Although these elements can blur, first impressions are usually a good indicator.

Good luck in your quest, and I am thinking of you. I may not get to respond further, as I will be away from a computer for several days, but will look out for you again when I next log on.

Love Simon XX :)
 
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Scared stiff 2018

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I entered to the dentist and she was very nice to me. 1st time over ever been to a dentist that didn’t yeal at me or drill on my teeth without novacaine. I have to have 9 teeth pulled , she said they are simple extractions and I could just get them done at the regular Dentist office but she said because of my anxiety she would like me to go a oral surgeon. She wanted me to get in the next wk. that would of been Thanksgiving wk. I went right to the oral surgeons office but they couldn’t get me in for 3 wks that is next Wednesday (12/06/17).....Im not loosing any front teeth , the ones I’m loosing are all broke off anyway. I’ve been on antibiotics for over 3 wks now. I’m scared out of my mind, I’m very bitter at my Parents for making me go through such traumatic experience just to save money. I’m hoping once things are better I can heal from this mentally also. It’s just a co station next wk. my Hubby is going with me, I’ve told him I don’t want him to go in the back. He doesn’t like that but I dont want him to see my broken teeth. Hoping this will be done by Christmas , looking forward to he end result. The regular dentist told me once my gums heal up to come back and they will clean my teeth in 2 appointments so it won’t be so rough on me . She couldn’t believe that I hadn’t been to the dentist in 27 years . She said most people all there teeth would of been broken off to knobs,......I told her “I don’t care if Your loeing to me it makes me feel better”,,,,,It was so hard , as I sat in that chair crying I felt like that teenager that I was going to get whooped when I left there by my Dad......my Dad told someone and I can remember it like it was yesterday “I don’t want my girls to respect me,I want them to fear me”......we’ll be careful what you wish for you might get it......he did. !!!,......oh and my hubby said he is going to get me partials !!!,,..he said he doesn’t care he just wants me to feel good about myself......because I was talking about them
 
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Hi,

I am so glad that your appointment went well and that you are on the right track to a healthy mouth. It's so nice when you have someone there to support you like this.

Good luck with your appointment next week and let us know how it goes!
 
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I entered to the dentist and she was very nice to me. 1st time over ever been to a dentist that didn’t yeal at me or drill on my teeth without novacaine. I have to have 9 teeth pulled , she said they are simple extractions and I could just get them done at the regular Dentist office but she said because of my anxiety she would like me to go a oral surgeon. She wanted me to get in the next wk. that would of been Thanksgiving wk. I went right to the oral surgeons office but they couldn’t get me in for 3 wks that is next Wednesday (12/06/17).....Im not loosing any front teeth , the ones I’m loosing are all broke off anyway. I’ve been on antibiotics for over 3 wks now. I’m scared out of my mind, I’m very bitter at my Parents for making me go through such traumatic experience just to save money. I’m hoping once things are better I can heal from this mentally also. It’s just a co station next wk. my Hubby is going with me, I’ve told him I don’t want him to go in the back. He doesn’t like that but I dont want him to see my broken teeth. Hoping this will be done by Christmas , looking forward to he end result. The regular dentist told me once my gums heal up to come back and they will clean my teeth in 2 appointments so it won’t be so rough on me . She couldn’t believe that I hadn’t been to the dentist in 27 years . She said most people all there teeth would of been broken off to knobs,......I told her “I don’t care if Your loeing to me it makes me feel better”,,,,,It was so hard , as I sat in that chair crying I felt like that teenager that I was going to get whooped when I left there by my Dad......my Dad told someone and I can remember it like it was yesterday “I don’t want my girls to respect me,I want them to fear me”......we’ll be careful what you wish for you might get it......he did. !!!,......oh and my hubby said he is going to get me partials !!!,,..he said he doesn’t care he just wants me to feel good about myself......because I was talking about them

Well done. You’ve done brilliantly to get this far. It will all be worth it I promise you. I’m not surprised you’ve been terrified after your past experience. I’m horrified how your sister reacted to you. When you have got through this you will be able to say “ who’s the wussy butt now” and you’ve got the support of your husband which is great. Good luck
 
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Scared stiff 2018

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As i sit at work this morning my stomach is in knots.......tomorrow I head to a different dentist office and I’m scared out of my mind. My sister has gotten better, I’m wondering if she has had. Change of heart ( she didn’t go to the $10.00 dentist). She was away at College when they took me. I’m terrified the will do the IV sedation and I will feel everything and almost like I’ll be tied down the nightmares I’ve been having . I know that is t going to be the case,but nevertheless when you have such fear it can be horrible. I leave work tomorrow at 12:00......thenhead home where my Hubby is going to meet me then my appointment is at 2:30 tomorrow.......YEP......I’m going to be a basket case by then !!!!!
 
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Hunter73

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I hope it went well for you and that you found a good dentist. Xxx
 
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Scared stiff 2018

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Well I have 9 days until I have oral surgery......now that I’m in the single didgets, I guess I’m feeling the crunch . I’m just glad it will be over with at Christmas time. Some people probably wouldn’t want that before Christmas I don’t want to stress about it on Christmas. .....My Hubby has perfect teeth, his parents took him to the dentist on a regular basis. I went twice and no novacain and gutted out teeth.......I’m trying not to be bitter but between bad dentist and whoopings for crying when I got home it’s hard not to be bitter. I’m hoping once I’m on that better path I can start to heal mentally also .
 
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Hunter73

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Wow! You are doing so well. For what it's worth I'm sure you won't feel a thing on the day. There is no reason for a dentist to hurt you in this day and age. Congratulations for being so brave and please let us know how you get on.
 
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