Veneers the biggest regret of my life

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charlottep

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I’m so sorry to hear about your experience. I had my 4 front teeth done as well and I’ve been fighting anxiety/depression about it. I can’t stop thinking about them. It’s my first thought in the morning and my last before bed. Can I ask how you know your body was rejecting the cement? My new dentist said I might have to get more gum removed or that I’m allergic to the cement and that is why my gum is swollen. This scares me I can’t even think about what more can happen.

Hi there - I'm sorry you are in this too, but you aren't alone. I had what looked like a red line all along my gums above the six veneers and random bleeding, especially triggered by flossing. I had functional crown lengthening done and I was lucky it turned out looking great. It got significantly better but there's still some redness (no bleeding). PLEASE really do your research on your gum doctor...get a few opinions. I saw many before settling on one with the best reviews.

This is a deduction process.

The next step if there is still irritation is to rule out a oral hygeine issue (I was given a prescription mouthwash/used a sulca brush/flossed twice a day). Don't shy away from the operated area once it is safe to brush. I let my gums become more irritated by trying to avoid the area after the surgery. Big mistake.

If there is still redness at your checkup, you will be told to go for allergy testing : contact all clinics that worked on you and get all the safety data sheets for all the materials in your mouth, INCLUDING the safety data sheets for the glues you are considering using if you need to re-do it. The allergist can source all those materials.

If it turns out you are not allergic, then perhaps you need to have a bit more gum taken off.

Go the allergy route first as it is the least invasive. Once you remove gum, you run the risk anyway of having to redo all the work as there's a chance the top of your real teeth will start to be exposed.

I should note, there's also a chance it is "epigenetic"--whereby your previously inflammed tissue is telling the new cells coming in to be inflammed...so you may never totally rid yourself of that inflammation (this is what my gum specialist told me).

My thoughts are with you. I know how painful and shameful this whole thing is. I am praying for the day I get this resolved and can think about something other than my stupid teeth.

You will get through this.
 
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My story? A few years ago I went to a top-rated cosmetic dentist and shelled out 11k for dental work. I went in to ask about bonding and he insisted the only thing that would address my cosmetic concerns were six veneers. "Don't worry, we barely take anything off when we prep your teeth." It sounded so routine and minimal.

BIGGEST REGRET OF MY LIFE.

A year later I took a bite of bread and the nightmare began. What was under there was a peg. I felt sick to my stomach.

It took three tries to get the tooth to stay on and in the process of Xrays they discovered I needed THREE root canals because the dentist killed half my teeth.

It didn't end there.

The dentist violated the "biologic width" when placing the veneers, so I needed to get functional crown lengthening-- a procedure where they drill bone and cut back gums.

IT DIDN'T END THERE EITHER.

I'm now being sent for allergy tests because my body is rejecting the dental cement. I will need to have all six replaced and the thought of that makes me sick.

I feel psychologically tortured.

There is NOTHING that is worth losing confidence that your teeth will stay ON. I lie in bed thinking about it. My blood runs cold anytime something crunches in my mouth. I feel mutilated.

I'd give any thing just have my real teeth back: healthy, somewhat chipped, but MINE.

I have signed up for a lifetime of issues, dental implants or worse.

I have PTSD now from this, as I shake everytime I get in the dentist chair, waiting for more bad news. It keeps coming. I never will be free from this.
Any update?
 
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champ

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Same thing happened to me but with composite bonding last year. Everything I researched online said it could be removed and its less invasive. I went in to lengthen my laterals for cosmetic reasons and my dentist convinced me to get a "Hollywood smile" and get bonding on my canines as well. She said she needed me to make up my mind fast because she can't make it look as good if I come back later. Im so upset I said yes, when it was done I instantly regretted it but I tried to convince myself I liked it. I wish she told me to take my time, that this is irreversible and I'm ruining perfectly healthy teeth. I went back and asked it could be removed because I didn't feel like myself and she said she can't do that without compromising my teeth. This is the biggest regret my life, I know its my fault for going in for this procedure, but I just wish she went over the enamel damages with me instead of just saying the down side is that it stains. The biggest thing I regret is that I ruined perfectly healthy teeth and I will have to keep getting work don't on it for the rest of my life. Im scared ill have to get veneers or a root canal one of these days. Ive spent so much of my days obsessing over this and keep telling my self "what's done is done, you need to move on" but its so hard. I spend so much of my time researching enamel regeneration and hoping I will see something like this within the next decade. I have nightmares that my teeth fall out. I did not realize how much of a toll this would take on my mental health. If I could go back in time and tell myself not to do it I would. If anyone decides to get bonding for cosmetic reasons please think it through. Also, if anyone needs to talk on the side and do a support group for this please let me know.

P.S. hope your all ok and things have gotten better

It's not your fault. That dentist purposely misled you. I'm so sorry you're having such a hard time. It is absolutely her fault, not yours. You thought you were trying it out and would be able to reverse it - because that's what she said.
 
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I have stumbled across this website and it’s reassuring knowing I’m not alone. I deeply regret my cosmetic dentistry. It makes me sick to my stomach every day. There’s always something going wrong and the thought of them cracking after hours with no dental support is horrifying. I got talked into it too. I wanted veneers on my two front teeth as one was chipped. I got talked into 6 crowns. I had no idea that every 10 years these needed replacing at huge cost. I am so desperate for my old imperfect teeth.
 
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Did a dentist tell you your crowns needed to be replaced? And all at the same time?? I'm concerned because I have a bunch of crowns, the newest of which is 26 years old, the oldest 40. So I'm worried the dentist might be taking advantage of you because that's when insurance companies will pay for them again. Did you get a second opinion.
 
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When I was 25 (5 years ago) I had 8 porcelain veneers on my top teeth. A totally unnecessary and purely cosmetic procedure. I never ate sweets or fizzy drinks, brushed and flossed twice a day my teeth were very strong and healthy no filings and it was a ridiculous idea to have veneers. I went to the dentist about straightening a tiny kink and came out with a set of veneers. They were done by a very experience and qualified London cosmetic dentist and they have always been fine BUT I didn't realise how much this would psychologically affect me. I now have panic attacks everyday about the fear of root canal or losing my teeth. I am terrified of what damage I have done to my future self and wish I could turn back the clock and stop myself going through with it. I pray for the day that stem cell technology can rebuild my a natural enamel and have them off I literally want to pull them off myself! This has affected my self esteem so much constant worrying is making me ill. Does anyone feel the same?
I've just read your heartfelt post from 2018 and wondered how things are for you now as we head into the latter months of 2021?
 
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Mine are my front teeth, they eventually broke from age.. they only have a 10-15 year lifespan. It was so awful to have a tooth literally disintegrate. It was one I had to get a root canal on so that weakened the crown. The others followed suit with cracking/breaking.
I was never informed of the constant replacement of cosmetic dental work. I wouldn’t have done it if so. Not ever. I think cosmetic dentistry should be banned. It’s traumatic.
where are your crowns?
 
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I am so so glad I found this thread.
I already feel less alone. Still full of shame and regret, but less alone.
I too went to the dentist with just a question about some gaps, 10 Veneers later, it was the worst decision of my life.
I wish I had listened to the universe when I had a dream about my teeth falling out before I had the procedure because I have had 6 of the veneers debond.
It’s traumatic, shameful, and riddles me with anxiety for weeks after each experience.
I don’t want to travel or do anything that might make my teeth fall out.
I am so sad about all the experiences I will miss out on in my life as I shy away from things in case I lose a tooth doing it.
I wish wish wish I could have my old, imperfect healthy teeth and smile back.
I looked more attractive then than I do after all this money was spent.
 
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AlwaysAnxious

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I am so so glad I found this thread.
I already feel less alone. Still full of shame and regret, but less alone.
I too went to the dentist with just a question about some gaps, 10 Veneers later, it was the worst decision of my life.
I wish I had listened to the universe when I had a dream about my teeth falling out before I had the procedure because I have had 6 of the veneers debond.
It’s traumatic, shameful, and riddles me with anxiety for weeks after each experience.
I don’t want to travel or do anything that might make my teeth fall out.
I am so sad about all the experiences I will miss out on in my life as I shy away from things in case I lose a tooth doing it.
I wish wish wish I could have my old, imperfect healthy teeth and smile back.
I looked more attractive then than I do after all this money was spent.
Hi Loveteakitty, I completely understand you. I feel the same. I deeply regret what I did and I’m having a lot of trouble living with my decision. With my anxious nature I am coming up with new horror stories daily like I’m allergic to my crowns or I have an abscess or I’ll have to have dentures before 40. The crappy dentist went to Did not properly explain this is a lifetime of costs and traumatic breaking & re-crowning of my front teeth, not ti mention how much they over-prep’d my original teeth. I have nightmares of how I would look with just my original teeth - jagged pegs! I just want go shake some sense into my 20yo self. I am having to go to therapy for this awful decision because I can’t accept my life & future how it is. I am so so upset at myself and wish every day for my slightly wonky natural teeth. I’m here if you want to chat.
 
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It truly is an all consuming feeling.
When I wake in the morning I check my teeth, when I eat, I check my teeth, when I do basically anything, I am checking to see if my teeth have fallen out.
It’s debilitating.
I cannot believe I am admitting this but sometimes I think it would be easier to just have my life end than to endure this.
These are just thoughts and know I would never act on them.
I am trying to find things to help.
 
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AlwaysAnxious

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I absolutely understand how you feel because I’m the same. I don’t know how to endure this for the next 40 years. Im always checking my teeth, choosing softer foods to eat, completely obsessing. It’s a severe general anxiety disorder. Have you seen a doc?
 
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Please Loveteakitty and Always Anxious, please hang in there. None of us knows what advances will come in the coming years. Dentistry is very big, which means there are always people working on advancements. I truly understand how overwhelming it is, every day. If you're near a dental school, they are less expensive, if that can help alleviate some concern. Hugs to you both.
 
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