• Dental Phobia Support

    Welcome! This is an online support group for anyone who is has a severe fear of the dentist or dental treatment. Please note that this is NOT a general dental problems or health anxiety forum! You can find a list of them here.

    Register now to access all the features of the forum.

What do I do now ...

A

Alathberry

Junior member
Joined
Sep 30, 2020
Messages
7
Location
Florida
Okay so this may be long, but I need outside input and those closest to me are over it.

After 6 years clean I have finally saved enough money to get my teeth in order. I had one wisdom tooth left, broken horizontal partially impacted, so I couldn't wait any longer. My MIL had implants at a certain place and referred me. From the beginning the dentist I was "assigned" to had what I would like to call a bad bedside manner. I should have listened to my gut, but I assumed it was my anxiety. He was not the surgeon removing my wisdom tooth and two molars. First visit after consult, I had 4 fillings. All of them were so tight between my teeth I was unable to properly floss. Second visit had teeth cleaned and she was able to fix some of the flossing issues. Third visit 2 more fillings and ground down crown. They took molds and sent me on my way. 2 days later one filling fell out. Not eating. Not doing anything. The whole thing fell out. I called and they didn't seem very concerned and I assumed that they would fill it before the extraction. They didn't. So at this point 6 fillings and only one is not causing me pain or issues. Teeth were pulled and that in and of itself was the most tramatic experience. I was wide awake and aware the whole time. Meds didn't take effect till being stitched. Here's the thing tho. No after care instructions AT ALL. I went back to get stitches removed and she said I was healing slow but didn't tell me what to do or why. Also didn't fix filling once again and crown was defective. At this point I have spent thousands and have to wait a few more weeks to start the whole crown procedure over and have filling replace. And what point is it okay to say enough. I wanted to give them the chance to make me happy, but I don't think they can. My anxiety about going back is through the roof and I just don't know if I can allow them to touch me again. I feel like I have paid all this money to be butchered. Plus they don't offer nitrous so no relief or relaxation. Tell me I'm not crazy please. MIL says I am too picky and it's me. I think they are crap.... Just needed to vent I guess. This whole experience has me very jaded and overwhelmed. 21 plus days of putting wax on a 200 filling isn't helping.
 
Hi Alathberry,

sorry to read about your experiences, I would be very upset if this happened to me!

You have come a long way with your treatment and spent a lot of money on it and of course you expect them doing things right. And numb you up properly! Your experience with extractions sounds horrid. There also seems not to have been sufficient communication about what will be done and when.

You are the person to say enough and you decide when this point is for you. It can be after the first visit, it can be mid treatment. You are the client and you pay for the service.

If there are complications mid treatment, the best thing may be to have a chat with the practice, if you feel able to. If you tell them what bothers you and how you would like your treatment to go from now on, they may be able to try to fix the problems. If you, indeed feel, that you would prefer not to go back, then finding a dentist may be the best thing to do. Trust and a good communication are the most important things when it comes to dental anxiety. You can read more here.

All the best wishes
 
It sounds like you've lost confidence in that dentist and I can understand why. I would have too. Can you speak to the practice manager or the dentist and tell them of your concerns. I would think at the least they need to replace the filling ASAP.
 
It sounds like you've lost confidence in that dentist and I can understand why. I would have too. Can you speak to the practice manager or the dentist and tell them of your concerns. I would think at the least they need to replace the filling ASAP.
Thank you for responding. After the first 2 visits I did ask to be switched to another dentist. They were not surprised as I assume I am not the first to complain about this man. The last 2 visits were with a different dr, and whole his demeanor was better, like you said, my confidence is shot for that place. I ask ALOT of questions, and still have no clarity. I have asked several times about the filling being fixed and there is always an excuse. Some of them are legitimate, but it should have been done before the extractions. 3 teeth pulled and several stitches, and I don't think I should be waxing a filling lol. The whole thing has me confused and overwhelmed.
 
Back
Top