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Just thinking after talking to a friend who mentioned its hard to find a dentist because its hard to trust.. well.. when do we find we have trust with our dentist? how long does it take? what contributes to that.. wondering what are some of your stories.
For me it happens in levels
There is some bit of a click on the first visit. like an impression and feeling I'm safe and listened to , enough to come back and allow any type of treatment to be tried. The first visit with my current dentist was recementing a temp crown, my old dentist had started but left the practice and the partner who is the owner finished. Well technically some dentists don't use local for just recementing, but the tooth was senstiive and not root canaled so I"m sure he could see on my face I was worried and immediately offered local so I would make sure to be comfortable.. I knew at that point on a certain level that he paid attention to my body language being anxious and wanted to make sure even the smallest treatment was painfree and comfortable.
Honesty helps , if I have some glimpse into the honesty and integrity of a dentist . When this dentist had finished the crown, I went home and to me it looked a little off shade but didn't know . like how do I tell this dentist being a little new to me, this shade is off ..and how will he react. well I asked him what he thought about it and he immediately looked and told me "you know , you are right and we can redo it for you whenever you want at no charge".. though I decided not to do it at this point because I was dealing with other issues, I was really put to ease more knowing he was honest and willing to do make things right. more trust built.
I need to feel and know I will not be shamed. I went in after my crown for a full exam and plan. Honestly I pretty much hate the looking at the big picture appointments.. I have so many issues it is overwhelming at times to think about. But this dentist made me feel, #1. It wasn't my fault, #2. It was managable. #3. We could do it at my pace #4. wasn't pressuring me at all for alot of work at once 4. No fear tactics. and just no shame at all... I felt alot of trust built at this appt even though no work or treatment was done. There was a solid plan in place .
Trust was also earned when he gave me painfree anesthetic shots , each time I loosened my grip on the chair just a bit more. also with pain free treatment .. he made sure I felt nothing during treatment .
He respected my stopsigns . always a great trustbuilder knowing someone will stop when I"m scared or need reassurance or a question answered.
Makes sure I have information and questions answered builds trust.
Being kind, patient and gentle in treatment , as well as staff being the same.
I think it builds and builds over time. The more treatments the more experience, positive momentum. Brene Brown one of my favorite authors talks about Trust being the stacking and layering of small moments over time. This is so true in trusting our dentists I think.
For me it happens in levels
There is some bit of a click on the first visit. like an impression and feeling I'm safe and listened to , enough to come back and allow any type of treatment to be tried. The first visit with my current dentist was recementing a temp crown, my old dentist had started but left the practice and the partner who is the owner finished. Well technically some dentists don't use local for just recementing, but the tooth was senstiive and not root canaled so I"m sure he could see on my face I was worried and immediately offered local so I would make sure to be comfortable.. I knew at that point on a certain level that he paid attention to my body language being anxious and wanted to make sure even the smallest treatment was painfree and comfortable.
Honesty helps , if I have some glimpse into the honesty and integrity of a dentist . When this dentist had finished the crown, I went home and to me it looked a little off shade but didn't know . like how do I tell this dentist being a little new to me, this shade is off ..and how will he react. well I asked him what he thought about it and he immediately looked and told me "you know , you are right and we can redo it for you whenever you want at no charge".. though I decided not to do it at this point because I was dealing with other issues, I was really put to ease more knowing he was honest and willing to do make things right. more trust built.
I need to feel and know I will not be shamed. I went in after my crown for a full exam and plan. Honestly I pretty much hate the looking at the big picture appointments.. I have so many issues it is overwhelming at times to think about. But this dentist made me feel, #1. It wasn't my fault, #2. It was managable. #3. We could do it at my pace #4. wasn't pressuring me at all for alot of work at once 4. No fear tactics. and just no shame at all... I felt alot of trust built at this appt even though no work or treatment was done. There was a solid plan in place .
Trust was also earned when he gave me painfree anesthetic shots , each time I loosened my grip on the chair just a bit more. also with pain free treatment .. he made sure I felt nothing during treatment .
He respected my stopsigns . always a great trustbuilder knowing someone will stop when I"m scared or need reassurance or a question answered.
Makes sure I have information and questions answered builds trust.
Being kind, patient and gentle in treatment , as well as staff being the same.
I think it builds and builds over time. The more treatments the more experience, positive momentum. Brene Brown one of my favorite authors talks about Trust being the stacking and layering of small moments over time. This is so true in trusting our dentists I think.