Will my dentist feel offended?

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Nutkins

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Hi there,

To a cut a long story short, a month ago, I finally got over my fears and went to a dentist. I hadn't seen one in at least 15 years, mostly out of fear and anxiety. Fortunately, the dentist I chose was fantastic, and was everything you could ask for, extremely patient, caring and very attentive with me every step of the way, and despite some extractions, he made the whole thing really easy for me.

Part of my treatment plan, which I'm now nearing the end of, is treatment for gum disease, which ever since I became aware of it, has kept me awake at night - I regret to admit it seems I've had it for some time now, but my dentist says despite this, my bone structure is more or less undamaged (surprisingly). Unfortunately, I can't get an appointment with my dentist's specialist for at least a month. I don't want to wait this long.

I've since had a consultation with seperate clinic and I'm all ready to go start gum disease treatment with them. I know this seems like a daft question, but would my dentist be in anyway offended by this?
 
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Congratulations on the progress you have made. Maybe/maybe not. It is your right to seek your care where you feel most comfortable. Before switching I think it would be best to check you are comparing 'like with like'. Are they private referrals or NHS as waiting times would be different typically but also the treatment offered could be drastically different. Is it a specialist periodontist you are being referred to in both cases or just a dental hygienist or a dentist who is interested in gum disease? What is the treatment plan in both cases? Deep clean or more than that. Maybe check the actual qualifications of the people involved to see if they have similar experience. Some people want/need to be numbed up for perio treatments so being referred to someone with good injection technique might make it easier for you to stay the course and not be setback. Maybe explain to your dentist that you are worried about the wait and then that gives him the chance to point out any differences between the two options.
 
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As well as Brit's excellent advice above, a month is really no time at all to make any difference to the treatment of gum disease, it's a very slow process.
 
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And if your dentist knows that you're planning to go elsewhere, rather than wait, he might be able to get you in sooner, via a cancellation.
 
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Nutkins,

First of all well done on going to see the dentist after 15 years and so happy the dentist was so good , and seems just really pleasant! If I had something going on I needed treatment for and wasn't able to get in for a while. I might be curious as well and get another consult like you did.. just even to gain some positive momentum and exposure to dentists. It does seem like the first was so good but it is really hard to wait. I think they would understand if you decided to choose based of not being able to get in.. But also agree with Little Lynnie, in that if you did email or call them and say , I really want to get in before a month, and I"m thinking of going somewhere else is there a way you can help me get in earlier, they just might have a way to do that.. and I work in scheduling medical appts and we get cancels everyday , it is just life, people get sick or called into work or out of town. So you'd be surprised if you checked in how fast you might be able to get in at the dentist you liked. It sounds though also this is not him but an associate who works with the gum diesese , I hope he is as pleasant as the first guy. and maybe you could email and ask something as how he is with anxious patients too. Just wanted to encourage you.. Either way you got this!! You are doing great!
 
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It might put him into an awkward position if he doesn't rate the clinic you've picked :unsure:? It wouldn't be very professional to badmouth another clinician, so he'd likely not say anything. If that was a case, then I suppose he might be a bit miffed. If he does rate them highly and it was a toss up between the two periodontists anyway, then he probably won't care.

As Gordon said, a month or two is neither here nor there, so it might be wise to wait, seeing how you've got a really good relationship with your new dentist (and good communication between your dentist and the specialist is important in the long run, too).