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Parvaneh
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- Dorset,United Kingdom
Well,here goes..A few months ago,I went for my usual check-up,and was told my teeth were wobbly!I was so shocked at this,I just didn't know what to think!Although I've always found it ..difficult,going to the dentist,I always kept regular check-ups,every six months and haven't needed any treatment at all,for years,assuming I was keeping up a pretty good oral health regime,mainly because I hate the dentist!..so I was dumbstruck to be told this,it's a wisdom tooth,and no,I hadn't noticed.The dentist I saw,is a "new" one,I haven't had him before,and I don't particularly like him.He is pretty brusque and simply told me "most adults have gum diseases" and made a sarcastic remark,when I told him I do smoke,yes..
.It really upset me,stupidly..I never actually,knew this could even happen!I was then told I would have to see the hygeinist,that the treatment I needed wasn't available on the NHS,and I'd have to pay.I wasn't told what the treatment would even be,so i duly went along,having done some research,I gathered it would just be a "clean" ( my "treatment plan" simply said cosmetic scale and polish) and that this wouldn't hurt at all.
Oh dear...That's where the problems began,it hurt like hell!I can't describe how awful it was,I had to stop her several times,and began to feel myself beginning to panic and I wanted to cry..! I haven't felt this way since I was 6 years old and at the school dentist...I stuck it out,but felt shaky and totally freaked out.The hygienist hadn't even started on my wobbly tooth,she was busy cleaning stains from my bottom teeth and casually told me I'd need "several sessions" and "didn't the dentist explain this"? No,he did not!
I found myself feeling shaky and sick,but managed,before I left,to tell her I thought I'd need anaesthetic,next time,I didn't want to go back,and was furious to think I'd been through all that,and she hadn't even started on my "bad" tooth!
So,the time for my next appointment came around,and I'm petrified,but I have determined,that I've got to get this done,and that I will make sure she gives me anaesthetic,this time.
So,I ask her,and she says "I don't need it" and tells me to sit down,and that she'll only be using "hand tools"..
I get in the chair saying again,I'd really be a lot happier with some anaesthetic ( Please,god!!!) and again,she says "you won't need it I"m only going to be using hand tools""..I'm in the chair,my heart is racing,and all I can think of is,how much this is going to hurt,she might as well fix jump leads to my teeth and wire it up to the mains and let me have 240 volts....I have no idea what she's going even going to do,if she's only using "hand tools",will that work,isn't she supposed to be doing root planing,my treatment plan says it's only "cosmetic" what if she puts me through all this,but hasn't even done the job properly..
Before I know what's happened,she's firing up the same electrically-powered scrapy-machine thing,and I'm pulling off the plastic apron,the protective goggles,and saying,No,no way,this is not happening,I'm sorry,and I'm out of the chair,and across the room,trying my best not to cry.I am 43 years old,and I'm angry and upset and scared witless,and I have never done this before!..and no-one says a word,I am putting my coat on,and am wondering why she hasn't even said anything!? I pick up my bag and as I'm walking out the door,all she says is "Try to keep up with your cleaning" and I see her exchange a "look" and a shrug of her shoulders,to her assistant.I feel utterly humiliated,and enraged,in equal measure.
By the time I get home,however,the surgery has called,and said I Can go in,and the dentist himself,can perform the injection,for anaesthetic,and then,I can see her.If I want to ( I'm assuming she simply isn't qualified to give injections? Why do I have to see the dentist,and her? why didn't she says so!?)
I am so desperate for this tooth not to fall out,I have agreed to this.However,I now notice,my other wisdom tooth is loose,and ..bluntly,I feel sick.I don't want to go back in,there come hell or high water,it's not just the fear of it,I just now,have NO faith in these people,I feel they have treated me so badly,and I'm still freaked out by this loose tooth,and by the thought that I'm going to have to keep going back every three months,for cleaning?? All the information I have about my teeth,I have gained from the internet,my dentist and the hygienist seem to have the attitude that I don't need to know anything about what they are doing with my teeth..for a start,they are already breaching NHS guidelines,by refusing to offer me this treatment on the NHS,which,as I understand it,should be available,so,to add insult to injury,I think they are lying to me and making me pay for treatment,they seem to want to insist is purely "cosmetic" and making me pay for it,privately..I have had to wait weeks,since diagnosis,I can't wait much longer to get this fixed,I tried calling another dentist,but they couldn't offer me an appointment until next April,2013! I live in a rural area,there are few dental surgeries in my are taking on NHS patients,so I can't "shop around" much,and I can't drive,so my options are limited..but I need this tooth fixed...but am also worrying about whether they'll just want to pull it out,anyway,it's become really loose,now.
I've never had a tooth extracted,and am terrified.I don't want to go back at all,I feel sick just thinking about it,I can't sleep and as well as all this,I'm freaked out that my gums are that bad,the rest of my teeth might just drop out if I stop going to the dentist,and I'm angry that I feel they are not even very good "healthcare professionals" and are just trying to make money out of me..I'm so wound up about it all,I wonder if I ever want to go back to any dentist,ever again,I look at my 43 year old mouth,consider the years of treatments I've had,how much I hate it,and I feel like something's snapped,and I never want to see another dentist as long as I live,they don't seem to have done anything to help me,only to have ignored problems and then,"patched them up" and sent me on my way..I have cried myself silly over this,I feel trapped by the need to see these awful people,but also,feel they have treated me so badly over the years,what's the point in even putting myself through this anymore? No-one in my family knows how I feel,I don't have any friends,and o-one to talk to,for some reason,I feel shamed and angry, so I'm just trying to "soldier on" but it's really causing me so much upset,it's taking over my life,I don't know what to do..I am sorry,I just really needed to "talk to someone" about it! I am still proposing to go and have the treatment,with the anaesthetic,and see how it goes,but after that,I don't want to see another dentist again...to be honest,I can see me walking out of the surgery without treatment again,if I feel it's not going very well,and my fear and questions aren't going to be answered..but I'm afraid of "rocking the boat",too,in case they take me off the register,and I'll have to try and find another dentist...it's just doing my head in
.It really upset me,stupidly..I never actually,knew this could even happen!I was then told I would have to see the hygeinist,that the treatment I needed wasn't available on the NHS,and I'd have to pay.I wasn't told what the treatment would even be,so i duly went along,having done some research,I gathered it would just be a "clean" ( my "treatment plan" simply said cosmetic scale and polish) and that this wouldn't hurt at all.
Oh dear...That's where the problems began,it hurt like hell!I can't describe how awful it was,I had to stop her several times,and began to feel myself beginning to panic and I wanted to cry..! I haven't felt this way since I was 6 years old and at the school dentist...I stuck it out,but felt shaky and totally freaked out.The hygienist hadn't even started on my wobbly tooth,she was busy cleaning stains from my bottom teeth and casually told me I'd need "several sessions" and "didn't the dentist explain this"? No,he did not!
I found myself feeling shaky and sick,but managed,before I left,to tell her I thought I'd need anaesthetic,next time,I didn't want to go back,and was furious to think I'd been through all that,and she hadn't even started on my "bad" tooth!
So,the time for my next appointment came around,and I'm petrified,but I have determined,that I've got to get this done,and that I will make sure she gives me anaesthetic,this time.
So,I ask her,and she says "I don't need it" and tells me to sit down,and that she'll only be using "hand tools"..
I get in the chair saying again,I'd really be a lot happier with some anaesthetic ( Please,god!!!) and again,she says "you won't need it I"m only going to be using hand tools""..I'm in the chair,my heart is racing,and all I can think of is,how much this is going to hurt,she might as well fix jump leads to my teeth and wire it up to the mains and let me have 240 volts....I have no idea what she's going even going to do,if she's only using "hand tools",will that work,isn't she supposed to be doing root planing,my treatment plan says it's only "cosmetic" what if she puts me through all this,but hasn't even done the job properly..
Before I know what's happened,she's firing up the same electrically-powered scrapy-machine thing,and I'm pulling off the plastic apron,the protective goggles,and saying,No,no way,this is not happening,I'm sorry,and I'm out of the chair,and across the room,trying my best not to cry.I am 43 years old,and I'm angry and upset and scared witless,and I have never done this before!..and no-one says a word,I am putting my coat on,and am wondering why she hasn't even said anything!? I pick up my bag and as I'm walking out the door,all she says is "Try to keep up with your cleaning" and I see her exchange a "look" and a shrug of her shoulders,to her assistant.I feel utterly humiliated,and enraged,in equal measure.
By the time I get home,however,the surgery has called,and said I Can go in,and the dentist himself,can perform the injection,for anaesthetic,and then,I can see her.If I want to ( I'm assuming she simply isn't qualified to give injections? Why do I have to see the dentist,and her? why didn't she says so!?)
I am so desperate for this tooth not to fall out,I have agreed to this.However,I now notice,my other wisdom tooth is loose,and ..bluntly,I feel sick.I don't want to go back in,there come hell or high water,it's not just the fear of it,I just now,have NO faith in these people,I feel they have treated me so badly,and I'm still freaked out by this loose tooth,and by the thought that I'm going to have to keep going back every three months,for cleaning?? All the information I have about my teeth,I have gained from the internet,my dentist and the hygienist seem to have the attitude that I don't need to know anything about what they are doing with my teeth..for a start,they are already breaching NHS guidelines,by refusing to offer me this treatment on the NHS,which,as I understand it,should be available,so,to add insult to injury,I think they are lying to me and making me pay for treatment,they seem to want to insist is purely "cosmetic" and making me pay for it,privately..I have had to wait weeks,since diagnosis,I can't wait much longer to get this fixed,I tried calling another dentist,but they couldn't offer me an appointment until next April,2013! I live in a rural area,there are few dental surgeries in my are taking on NHS patients,so I can't "shop around" much,and I can't drive,so my options are limited..but I need this tooth fixed...but am also worrying about whether they'll just want to pull it out,anyway,it's become really loose,now.
I've never had a tooth extracted,and am terrified.I don't want to go back at all,I feel sick just thinking about it,I can't sleep and as well as all this,I'm freaked out that my gums are that bad,the rest of my teeth might just drop out if I stop going to the dentist,and I'm angry that I feel they are not even very good "healthcare professionals" and are just trying to make money out of me..I'm so wound up about it all,I wonder if I ever want to go back to any dentist,ever again,I look at my 43 year old mouth,consider the years of treatments I've had,how much I hate it,and I feel like something's snapped,and I never want to see another dentist as long as I live,they don't seem to have done anything to help me,only to have ignored problems and then,"patched them up" and sent me on my way..I have cried myself silly over this,I feel trapped by the need to see these awful people,but also,feel they have treated me so badly over the years,what's the point in even putting myself through this anymore? No-one in my family knows how I feel,I don't have any friends,and o-one to talk to,for some reason,I feel shamed and angry, so I'm just trying to "soldier on" but it's really causing me so much upset,it's taking over my life,I don't know what to do..I am sorry,I just really needed to "talk to someone" about it! I am still proposing to go and have the treatment,with the anaesthetic,and see how it goes,but after that,I don't want to see another dentist again...to be honest,I can see me walking out of the surgery without treatment again,if I feel it's not going very well,and my fear and questions aren't going to be answered..but I'm afraid of "rocking the boat",too,in case they take me off the register,and I'll have to try and find another dentist...it's just doing my head in
