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letting some stupid teeth ruin my happiness

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yes! You described that perfectly KitKat! I could sense that she was really nervous and then I felt bad and wanted to reassure her. The hardest part of a filling for me is when I must keep my mouth open and not contaminate the tooth before they put the filling material in. Knowing that I cannot close my mouth makes me panic. When they put the filling material in the 1st tooth I was full of anxiety. For the 2nd tooth, they let the student come in and help. I ended up holding my mouth open longer (since she was slower at helping), but I wasn't nearly as panicked!
 
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I could see it going either way with a student making anxiety better or worse for an already nervous patient. It really just depends on the person. I think the fact that they are nervous sort of levels the playing field in a way and helps you see the situation from a different perspective. Plus, it’s nice to know that they want to do a good job and are concerned about your well-being. I also find that when students are present, the dentist tends to provide more narrative on what’s being done and why which I personally find interesting.
 
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tomorrow (Wednesday) I have an appointment to have a crown put on a back molar. The tooth has a very old filling that is chipping away. This is the last tooth on my treatment plan and I'm somewhat excited to have this last tooth fixed, but I know this is not the end. My teeth have really let me down- I have always brushed 2x a day, flossed, use fluoride mouth rinse, plus I eat low carb and I don't drink any soft drinks. It sucks. But I know people my age going through much much worse. I feel incredibly guilty that I'm complaining about teeth, while other people in my life have terminal cancer.

I've had an extra hard time leading up to this appointment (if you can't already tell). I'm not sure why and I've had trouble sorting through my thoughts. I always get seasonal anxiety in September and October, so that may explain my anxiety and "doom and gloom" feelings about this appointment. I worry that crowning the tooth will cause other problems that will lead to more procedures that I cannot handle right now. I worry that I won't make it through the appointment. I'm freaking out about everything and spend hours each day thinking about cancelling it. Its too late to cancel now, unless we have an earthquake or something tonight ;)

On a brighter note, after the appointment tomorrow, I'm going to reward myself with a shopping trip for new fabric (I want to sew a quilted pillow of an apple tree!). I hope my head is in a good place tomorrow. Sometimes I feel like I'm making progress with my dental anxiety, and then sometimes I feel like its gotten worse.

I'll post an update tomorrow- fingers crossed for an earthquake ;) ;)
 
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No earthquake and I made it through the appointment! ;)

This morning I felt oddly not anxious, but thinking about how good I felt made me panic because something must be wrong if I'm feeling unworried!?? I went through that cycle several times. It was so weird!

I dropped the kids off at school and then went to the dentist office and waited until 9:30 while working on my crochet project. The assistant (who I love chatting to) came and got me, and I told her that I almost cancelled the appointment several times and I'm more anxious than usual. She is always so sweet and made sure to tell the dentist that I was anxious and they all were really kind.

I have a hard time getting numb and this time was no different. They did the initial numbing which wasn't bad at all. He started working on the tooth and I could feel it, so he put numbing in a different spot which really made my face go numb. Then he started again and I could still feel it. He injected more, and he was certain I'd feel nothing, but it still wasn't enough. Then he gave me a deeper injection into my gums (it sounds bad, but it didn't hurt at all). Its like this every time- I need so much novocaine to numb my teeth. I love that he doesn't seem annoyed at all when I ask for more. I know thats how it SHOULD be, but from experiences as a child, I always expect the dentist to say "no, you're fine and it won't be much longer" :(

I sat in the chair for a long time- about 2 hours. There was a lot of waiting time for the numbing to work, so its not like they were in my mouth for 2 hours, but its tiring laying still for that long! I didn't freak out at all- I really was quite calm the entire time. It just dragged on though. First he removed the old filling (it was an old metal filling) and there was a lot more decay under the filling than he expected. It took a long time to get the decay cleaned out and then he had to build the tooth back and up and then prep the tooth for a temporary crown. I go back in 2 weeks for the final crown.

My brain is fried. I only have a few chores to do today, but I'm going to take it easy and not expect anything more from myself today. I treated myself to a trip to the fabric store after my appointment and I bought some cute fabrics to make an oversized quilted pillow :)

If only I could hold onto this feeling and not go back to the really scary place that I was yesterday (and for the past 2 weeks). I'm glad I'm writing it all down here so I can go back and remind myself that I CAN do it.

Thanks anyone who has read this far xx
 
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Glad things went well and you took some time to treat yourself after. Sounds like you have an understanding dentist to work with. Hopefully after your next appointment you will get a bit of break from dental stuff for awhile.
 
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Spider,

Sounds like you did great with this . maybe not how you would describe the feeling of going through over 2 hour appt.. but you did it and sounds like your dentist was quite pleasant through it depsite obstacles of the local and time.

:perfect: I love that he doesn't seem annoyed at all when I ask for more. I know thats how it SHOULD be, but from experiences as a child, I always expect the dentist to say "no, you're fine and it won't be much longer" :(

Love this!! so true, it is how it should be.. he sounds really good for anxious patients. and he comes across really calm.



but I'm going to take it easy and not expect anything more from myself today. I treated myself to a trip to the fabric store after my appointment and I bought some cute fabrics to make an oversized quilted pillow :)

So great to hear!! You deserve it!! :you-rock:


If only I could hold onto this feeling and not go back to the really scary place that I was yesterday (and for the past 2 weeks). I'm glad I'm writing it all down here so I can go back and remind myself that I CAN do it.

This is great.. I go back over my journals and such right before appts to remind myself of what I said when I'm starting to get anxious again. ! You are doing SO amazing!!
 
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It sounds like you are doing great! Long appointments when you are difficult to numb can be very draining. I used to always feel like something was wrong when I no longer felt panic before appointments ...it becomes somewhat of a ritual for us even though it’s not really the way things should be!
 
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Quick little update. I had the crown prep on September 25th, but I just got my permanent put on last week (early November). The first crown that they ordered didn't fit well so they took more images and impressions and then re-ordered another crown. The temporary worked perfectly fine and I had no issues at all, so it wasn't a big deal that I had to wait. Both appointments to have the crown fitted went well and I went into those appointments in a good place mentally with minimal anxiety.

So this crown was the last dental thing needed on my long list from 2 years ago! I'm sure its not the end because I have other teeth that they're "watching" but fingers crossed I can have a break from dental work for awhile. I have a cleaning appointment at the end of this month so I will update then. Cleaning appointments are tough for me because I am always so tense, waiting for bad news :( My previous dentist would hurry into the room and then use his jabber to push really hard on my teeth looking for "sticky spots". That is a huge trigger for me, so I'd twist my head and make it really hard for him, making him frustrated so he'd go away faster. I don't want to feel like a victim at the dentist, so I need to overcome my deep feeling of being victimized in the chair. My goal is to remain in control and be a customer, not as a victim. Hope that makes sense. Easier said than done, but I trust my dentist more and more with each appointment, so perhaps I will be successful and have a new mindset this time.
 
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Super great update! I had my dental cleaning yesterday and I don't have to go back to the dentist for 6 months!! :dance:

I was so fearful that he'd find 10 more teeth with new problems, but so far, everything he's fixed looks great and the 2 teeth that they're watching haven't gotten worse. I was told that my enamel is "rough" and was advised to buy a spin brush since it'll help clean them better.
 
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Spider, you are my new hero!!
I just joined here today, yours is the first thread I have read. I wish I had your coping skills. Really, you are great at this. I don't want to bore you with my story (though, very briefly: 23 years without a trip to the dentist until last month. Now, today was my 4th appt, with many more to come. :( Also very agoraphobic and also have ended up with an angel of a dentist, and her assistant too. I wish I hadn't waited so long because so much damage could have been avoided!)
I will, if you don't mind follow your story with great interest and very much admiration! I, myself, can't even so far make it to the surgery and have been reliant on a lift from my wife. How bad is that??? But the dentist is finished pulling out the roots of my ruined teeth now, so next week I aim to walk down myself. I'm looking forward to it, in a weird way. Your story is very helpful indeed.
Thank-you. And best of luck!
 
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Thank-you krlovesherkids777. I just did a post! Yay me.. Think I'm tired now though. Numbness wearing off and some pain (really not much though) is setting in. I think I will sleep tonight. :)
 
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Spider, you are my new hero!!
I just joined here today, yours is the first thread I have read. I wish I had your coping skills. Really, you are great at this. I don't want to bore you with my story (though, very briefly: 23 years without a trip to the dentist until last month. Now, today was my 4th appt, with many more to come. :( Also very agoraphobic and also have ended up with an angel of a dentist, and her assistant too. I wish I hadn't waited so long because so much damage could have been avoided!)
I will, if you don't mind follow your story with great interest and very much admiration! I, myself, can't even so far make it to the surgery and have been reliant on a lift from my wife. How bad is that??? But the dentist is finished pulling out the roots of my ruined teeth now, so next week I aim to walk down myself. I'm looking forward to it, in a weird way. Your story is very helpful indeed.
Thank-you. And best of luck!
Awwww, welcome to the forum!!! Your comments made me smile :). I see that you've posted so I'll go have a peek around in a bit and get to know your story more! If you ever start a journal, I would love to follow you as well. I certainly need the inspiration to keep going and it sounds like you've already tackled extractions! That is so incredibly brave- I honestly don't know if I could go through with an extraction. Only the people on this forum know that I'm agoraphobic because its really embarrassing for me to admit. On Tuesday morning I drove my kids to school (its a 20 minute drive one way) and as usual I was full of anxiety because I was leaving my "safe" zone, but doubly anxious because after dropping them off, I needed to go to my cleaning appointment. Its just so hard and I should be proud of my bravery, but the voices in my head scold me for being ridiculous and weak. So thank you again for your kind words.
 
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