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sarako7
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So my molar is too damaged to be saved and I have to get it pulled out. Apart from being terrified of the procedure and the long term effects the next thing that's really bothering me is how nobody my age goes through this.
I'm only 16, and while the tooth is at the back of my mouth in my upper jaw probably won't be visible I can't help but feel really embarrassed that I have to get an extraction at such a young age, and I feel so guilty about it because this would've been preventable if I put effort into having good oral hygiene and if my irrational anxiety hadn't kept me from visiting the dentist regularly. I kind of wish my parents would've forced me to when I would refuse to go to the dentist.
I live in a place where people are judged for this stuff all the time. Not just by normal people but by dentists as well, including mine (which I honestly think is worse than other people judging. Of all people you'd expect your dentist to be supportive and reassuring, but no). So missing a tooth or possibly getting an implant at such a young age (I think 16 is probably too young for an implant but maybe in a few years) is humiliating. Not to mention friend and family judgement and the look of utter disappointment they'll give me when they find out, which will just make me feel worthless. Even my dad makes me feel bad about my situation when he tells me he never had dental problems when he was my age.
I'm losing sleep over this and I'm procrastinating getting the tooth extracted which is probably not a good idea. I know eventually I'll go and get it pulled out but does anyone maybe know stories of any young people who've had dental cases as bad as mine (doesn't have to be extraction) just to make me feel a little less alone? Because I feel ridiculous being this young and having a tooth so damaged it'll have to be removed. And when the worst dental cases I've ever seen in people as young as I am would be slightly crooked teeth or a small cavity I feel like a failure and a disappointment that I couldn't do something as simple as maintaining decent oral hygiene like they can.
I know other people have serious medical conditions that I'm lucky to not have to deal with, and some of them are exactly my age. Still, the fact that it's a minority isn't making me feel better about the situation. There must be a way to turn this into a positive situation though, right? Sorry if this was long, I don't really have anyone to talk to.
I'm only 16, and while the tooth is at the back of my mouth in my upper jaw probably won't be visible I can't help but feel really embarrassed that I have to get an extraction at such a young age, and I feel so guilty about it because this would've been preventable if I put effort into having good oral hygiene and if my irrational anxiety hadn't kept me from visiting the dentist regularly. I kind of wish my parents would've forced me to when I would refuse to go to the dentist.
I live in a place where people are judged for this stuff all the time. Not just by normal people but by dentists as well, including mine (which I honestly think is worse than other people judging. Of all people you'd expect your dentist to be supportive and reassuring, but no). So missing a tooth or possibly getting an implant at such a young age (I think 16 is probably too young for an implant but maybe in a few years) is humiliating. Not to mention friend and family judgement and the look of utter disappointment they'll give me when they find out, which will just make me feel worthless. Even my dad makes me feel bad about my situation when he tells me he never had dental problems when he was my age.
I'm losing sleep over this and I'm procrastinating getting the tooth extracted which is probably not a good idea. I know eventually I'll go and get it pulled out but does anyone maybe know stories of any young people who've had dental cases as bad as mine (doesn't have to be extraction) just to make me feel a little less alone? Because I feel ridiculous being this young and having a tooth so damaged it'll have to be removed. And when the worst dental cases I've ever seen in people as young as I am would be slightly crooked teeth or a small cavity I feel like a failure and a disappointment that I couldn't do something as simple as maintaining decent oral hygiene like they can.
I know other people have serious medical conditions that I'm lucky to not have to deal with, and some of them are exactly my age. Still, the fact that it's a minority isn't making me feel better about the situation. There must be a way to turn this into a positive situation though, right? Sorry if this was long, I don't really have anyone to talk to.