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I'm horrified to go to the dentist (PTSD)

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Rstew2207

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Hey ?
I'm here because I'm just feeling awful and I can't help but cry over the fact I'm going to the dentist tomorrow morning.
I've had some terrible experiences at the dentist ( you can check my other post), but long story short, LA doesn't quite work on me, neither does general (it does,but it takes much longer to kick in than it should), I'm kind of tolerant if I can say that. 3 years ago I had an infected tooth that was "treated" by a bad dentist who didn't do a thing but putting a little white thing over the tooth and let the bacteria eat my tooth for 3 years, that resulted in a huge abecess. There was no cavity, no crack, nothing.The only reason for this to happen was because she never did the root canal I paid for and the whole thing was still there and my tooth was growing bacteria inside of it for so long. She didn't explain a thing and the anesthesia only worked when I came out of her office. I'm not even going to describe the pain, it was extremely painful. She opened the tooth, touched the nerves... All while I felt every single thing. I think the cold water was the worst. I told her to stop, but she didn't. I have had pretty bad experiences before with injuries, but this traumatized me. I wasn't scared of dentists before. I just went home with painkillers. For that moment on, even driving past the building would make me stress so much I had to look away and take deep breaths. The pain came back, but this time it was so so so strong no pills would calm down the pain. This time I went a dentist, a kind and friendly one, who listened to me. It hurt, yes it did, but nothing compared to what I felt in the first time. I had a panic attack in the chair. They called me down, and helped me so much. He gave me anesthesia until I didn't feel a thing, I even fell asleep . If I follow the logic, I shouldn't be afraid, I don't even know if it's going to hurt! But in my head, I will go to hell if I step into the dentist's office. After that nice one, I tought that maybe I shouldn't be that afraid. But that's where I'm wrong. I was even more terrified to go back to end the treatment. My heart racing so fast, my anxiety so bad, even after taking a damn Xanax. I couldn't help but feel a huge panic sensation. Trying to tell myself that it'll end helps, for a second. I can't even open my mouth. Now another tooth is hurting, but just like a tiny tiny bit. It has been like this, on and of for 3 weeks now, there's a cavity there but it's not that big. Happens that I only felt "okay" with my new dentist. The thing is, that dentist is closed for renovations. My mom suggested going to hers, and she says he's nice and explains everything, and that his assistant is nice too. I could only get a appt for tomorrow, but I just want to cancel it. I'm just so nervous I can't think straight and I'm crying because I know it'll be excruciating. I know that if the dose of anesthesia is higher, I'll probably be okay, but I can't help but thinking continuously that it'll hurt so and, and just the thought of drilling makes me so darn anxious.
I suffer from severe anxiety, panic attacks and depression, and this doesn't help at all... My mom won't be with me and that's something that's stressing me out a lot since my dad is nowhere supportive as her. I feel so embarrassed...
And what makes me feel even worse, is the fact that I brush 3 times a day and floss one time a day , but still my teeth insist on rotting.
I'm just so scared, after what happened when I was fifteen. I REALLY Really hate what dentists do. If you guys have any tips, of just anything to help me out here... It'd be appreciated.
I know that if the dentist tells me that I need like a rct, I'll straight start crying on the spot....
PS: No, I don't think I can't get any nitrous oxide. I don't think they do it in this clinic and if they do, they'll probably tell me I'm being stupid...
 
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Our page here talks about cases where some people struggle to get numb:

https://www.dentalfearcentral.org/fears/not-numb/

It can be combated by dentist technique, but you do need to communicate with the dentist. If you're in pain during a procedure, you can stop the procedure, and maybe they can refer you to a more specialised dentist etc. Basically, you're not the first person with this problem, and it shouldn't mean that you have to suffer any dental work in agonising pain.

Also, current infections can make it harder to numb a person ("hot tooth" it's called, it's detailed on the page I linked) so if you have an infection, you might see about getting a course of antibiotics first before the treatment.

Really, I know how terrifying it is, but it's important to talk to the dentist. Hopefully they will listen - a good dentist always should listen to patient's concerns and take their specific needs into account. If you get very anxious while in the clinic and find it difficult to think clearly, you can write a little list of questions to ask to take in with you, and read off it, or even just hand it to the dentist. I did that once at a doctor appointment, and the doctor didn't think it was weird or anything like that, she just read it and responded.

Severe pain is a common cause of dental phobias. You're not alone. :)
 
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