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Pain while being drilled on, terrified to go back...

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BumbleFe

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I'm 23, female college student, having a lot of dental work done. I just want to get this all out because I can't stand my anxiety anymore.

I was not good taking care of my teeth growing up and didn't start flossing until college. My mom doesn't have any teeth and I don't want to blame my parents, but I never knew that you even had to floss or brush every day. Fast forward to about two years ago and one of my teeth fell out while I was eating hummus. I set up an appointment with my mom's sedation dentist who did her implants and was so happy because I didn't feel any pain when he placed a bridge, did a root canal and some fillings. I didn't even get any sedation done, just a lot of anesthetic. Thought I was out in the clear...

Now, my new dentist said I would need a total of 9 crowns (including a replacement bridge) and that it was "time sensitive" meaning that the decay was close to my roots. Some fillings, too, because all of my previous fillings failed... I switched to him when my old dentist sold his practice to him. All of my previous fillings were failing but when my previous dentist did them it didn't hurt at all, so I was feeling pretty confident going in to this new dentist's practice.

New dentist is a highly recommended dentist but during the last appointment I felt a lot of pain while he was drilling my tooth down for one of my crowns. The tooth had a cracked filling and the pain made me want to jump out of the chair, even after more anesthetic. He just told me the nerve was probably inflamed and kept going to finish the tooth after asking me if I could "handle it". I was at the point of breaking down when he was all done. I feel like I don't trust him anymore after being in pain but I (my Dad) already paid him 10,000$ for all of the crown work, so at this point I have to go through with it. Later that night I was also in pain and he had said at the appointment that Advil should take care of it, but if it didn't I should call the emergency number. I called his emergency line but he didn't pick up. I left a voice-mail. After 4 Advil I took a hydrocodone that my boyfriend gave me from his previous knee surgery because I was desperate for the throbbing nerve pain to stop. I was able to get some sleep after that and in the morning the pain had dulled so Advil took care of it.

I never got a response after leaving that voice-mail and when I called in for my next appointment about 2 weeks later (for the perm crown) the receptionist said that it was odd that she never received it or that he called me back. I KNOW I called the right number, I even verified it with her.

I have an appointment in 4 days for the permanent crown fitting and I am terrified I will be in more pain and asked to "just handle it". Like I said, my previous dentist even did a root canal and I never felt any pain at all, I don't know what's going on with this one. :cry: Just looking for support, at this point I am feeling hopeless over my teeth. Like what's the point? I floss every day, brush twice a day and use MI paste, yet I still get random tooth aches every day... still feel anxious every time i'm in front of the sink looking at my teeth.
 
Hi BumbleFe and welcome on the forum. I am really sorry to hear about your terrible experiences and understand your anxiety when it comes to going back. Dental treatment is supposed to be pain free nowadays and 'handling it' should never be an option. It's not a surprise that you do not trust your dentist after this and the fact he didn't answer your emergency call just makes everything worse.

Trust is an important ingredient when it comes to dental treatment. You have to be sure that the person who is in control (your dentist) will do his best not to cause you any discomfort. For this reason I would encourage you to change dentists and only agree to a treatment if you feel comfortable. Any further negative experience might worsen your anxiety and prevent you from receiving further treatment.

If changing is impossible and you have no other option then to keep on going with this dentist, I suggest you have a good chat with him about your last experience. You should let him know how difficult it was for you and how nervous you feel now and he should be able to offer you a some actions to prevent this from happening again. He should also make sure you are properly numb before doing anything and if you feel any discomfort during a treatment, he should stop.
Your dentist will need your assistance with this, so please take good care of you. Let him know when you are in pain and do not agree to "handle it". Dental treatment should always be pain free. Setting up a stop signal for you to feel more in control is also a good thing to do, if you haven't already.

All the best wishes and let us know how you are doing.
 
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