krlovesherkids777
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So no matter how far I come in some of my dental fears , there is always one fear my inner critic is willing to chime in on and that is being annoying.. Did I ask too many questions?, weird questions?, did I call too much ?, did I look stupid in the waiting room or the chair?, did I drool too much in the treatment ? .. or make a funny noise? or too sentimental or crying at the news? or make a weird face or my teeth are too bad . any number of reasons.. even if I brought treats , was that totally annoying someone would bring treats..
Sometimes there is no indication that it is annoying to them, and really they are not , its just my own inner critic. My last dentist I even presented this to him and told him I was afraid of being annoying and he reassured me in very kind way so I felt better with him but would feel I annoyed the receptionist then..
In the past, when someone would be very quick with me, it was taken as oh, yeah they are annoyed and want me out of here and just do not like me at all, or they would make faces, and seem condescending that did not help this factor at all and well, I have left all those offices.
I'm working on silencing my inner critic and realizing that though I might guess things to annoy people, well maybe they are used to it.. maybe they know how to deal with it, maybe they really do care and aren't annoyed at all. It really helps having dentists that are good with anxious patients and know a little what to expect in our actions and mentality and can be reassuring.
Anyways, I just think this is a real fear so wanted to put it out there.
Sometimes there is no indication that it is annoying to them, and really they are not , its just my own inner critic. My last dentist I even presented this to him and told him I was afraid of being annoying and he reassured me in very kind way so I felt better with him but would feel I annoyed the receptionist then..
In the past, when someone would be very quick with me, it was taken as oh, yeah they are annoyed and want me out of here and just do not like me at all, or they would make faces, and seem condescending that did not help this factor at all and well, I have left all those offices.
I'm working on silencing my inner critic and realizing that though I might guess things to annoy people, well maybe they are used to it.. maybe they know how to deal with it, maybe they really do care and aren't annoyed at all. It really helps having dentists that are good with anxious patients and know a little what to expect in our actions and mentality and can be reassuring.
Anyways, I just think this is a real fear so wanted to put it out there.