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Jenny the Geek
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- Oct 30, 2017
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Hi, just for some background.... I have never been to the dentist since I was 6. We went on a school field trip. My mother said that it was just "baby teeth" and she wasn't paying money to get any cavities fixed. She also never took me to the dentist once I had all my permanent teeth. I was forced to by my own tooth paste, personal hygiene products, etc. As a child, you can imagine I didn't have much money. So, brushing my teeth wasn't a priority or even an option most of the time. The toothpaste was kept in my parent's bathroom, which I was not allowed to go into.....
To make all this worse, I was bulimic for all my my teenage years into my 20's. Parts of my front teeth have cracked off. I probably don't have a tooth in my head that doesn't have a cavity in it. All I feel is shame and terror. People see this pretty, successful woman who never smiles with her teeth showing.
I've been lucky enough not to have any real pain or abscesses or anything. But I know it's just a matter of time. I'm horrified that the dentist is going to think badly of me for the state of my teeth and that I've let it get this bad. I'm afraid I'll have to get them all pulled and get dentures or something. I'm afraid of what my husband will think... Will he be disgusted??
I know that most of this is my parent's fault
. I would never have gotten to this point if they had taken me to a dentist like normal parents and bought me toothpaste, ffs. But now it's to the point where so much damage is done, I feel too much embarrassment to face a dentist.
Any advice or similar stories? Please help me with your words. Thanks.
To make all this worse, I was bulimic for all my my teenage years into my 20's. Parts of my front teeth have cracked off. I probably don't have a tooth in my head that doesn't have a cavity in it. All I feel is shame and terror. People see this pretty, successful woman who never smiles with her teeth showing.
I've been lucky enough not to have any real pain or abscesses or anything. But I know it's just a matter of time. I'm horrified that the dentist is going to think badly of me for the state of my teeth and that I've let it get this bad. I'm afraid I'll have to get them all pulled and get dentures or something. I'm afraid of what my husband will think... Will he be disgusted??
I know that most of this is my parent's fault
. I would never have gotten to this point if they had taken me to a dentist like normal parents and bought me toothpaste, ffs. But now it's to the point where so much damage is done, I feel too much embarrassment to face a dentist.
Any advice or similar stories? Please help me with your words. Thanks.