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youngandscared
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I think it's a good idea telling him because you will feel a bit more at ease knowing that there are people to support you and you'll feel better knowing that you don't have to hide anything from him anymore.
From what you have said he sounds amazing so his reaction to you telling him should be very understanding and supportive. Also it's great for when you have appointments he can go with you. I don't know if it's the same with you but I found I was a little more relaxed with my boyfriend there rather than my mum ( however the last time I went before all the recent treatment was with my mum about 7 years ago!) I think I was trying to act brave around my mum because she's the sort of person who would go round telling everyone whereas I felt I didn't have to hide my emotions when I was there with him. When I told my boyfriend these were his words "Jas you strong and are going to get through this but that doesn't mean you have to be brave, if you feel like crying, cry ,If you need a reassuring word or hug, I'm here". After that I relaxed a little bit more because I knew I wasn't being judged. Didn't relax to much though cos I was still petrified!
Im thinking there is 2 possible ways to tell him. Number 1- tell him straight out. Just sit him down and tell him everything. However I know this takes a lot of guts and is scary. Number 2- ask him again what he is afraid of and vice versa. You could tell him that you don't want to talk about it( let's be honest no one does!) and he will want to know and if you finally do decide to tell him he will understand how much of a sensitive subject it is and should be able to see how hard it is for you.
Hope this his helps and if you ever need someone to talk to or to build up the courage I am here xx
From what you have said he sounds amazing so his reaction to you telling him should be very understanding and supportive. Also it's great for when you have appointments he can go with you. I don't know if it's the same with you but I found I was a little more relaxed with my boyfriend there rather than my mum ( however the last time I went before all the recent treatment was with my mum about 7 years ago!) I think I was trying to act brave around my mum because she's the sort of person who would go round telling everyone whereas I felt I didn't have to hide my emotions when I was there with him. When I told my boyfriend these were his words "Jas you strong and are going to get through this but that doesn't mean you have to be brave, if you feel like crying, cry ,If you need a reassuring word or hug, I'm here". After that I relaxed a little bit more because I knew I wasn't being judged. Didn't relax to much though cos I was still petrified!
Im thinking there is 2 possible ways to tell him. Number 1- tell him straight out. Just sit him down and tell him everything. However I know this takes a lot of guts and is scary. Number 2- ask him again what he is afraid of and vice versa. You could tell him that you don't want to talk about it( let's be honest no one does!) and he will want to know and if you finally do decide to tell him he will understand how much of a sensitive subject it is and should be able to see how hard it is for you.
Hope this his helps and if you ever need someone to talk to or to build up the courage I am here xx
